I live my entire life with the expectation that nobody loves me as much as I love them and I'm nothing but a burden that they would be better off without. I shy away from making new relationships because I just do not trust they won't hurt me. Jax is VERY relatable.
mind you heizou already is a detective whose outfit is inspired by those of a doshin of the edo period. yall just don't consider him a real detective bc he doesn't fit your european idea of a detective. journalism also fits the detective idea btw, she has every right to wear that
You can like masc guys without hating fem guys.
You can like gym guys without disrespecting average bodies.
The fact that this needs to be said is wild.
There's wisdom in that feeling - the traits you believe you are deficient in are clues about what you want for yourself (or possibly already possess, but have disowned out of shame + fear + overwhelm)
when something unlucky happens to your magical-thinking prone friend who is already unkind to themself and youre like fuuuck please don't internalise this
being a deeply flirtatious person irl with absolutely 0 shame but feeling disgusted when any attention is given to me in the slightest but also still desiring sexual attention. there's probably something to unpack here
@vancethot I’ll say it time and time again. It’s okay to be nice to someone you aren’t attracted to, you will not melt. Should he take the hint, sure. Should you maybe not post this to embarrass him? 100%. The apps are sometimes hard for gays who are not young, fit and white.
We live in profoundly lonely and alienated times and I think it would behoove all of us to see these annoying but mostly harmless social faux pas as symptoms of this decay at the heart of American life… be nice to the lonely old gay guy because you might be him one day
@fawnmeats when so much of "polite society" demands silence from its victims, i don't think we should be helping it out but painting it as progressive.
This!!!!
If someone shares, that means they're comfy around u!!!!
Yes there's a time and place, yes it inconvenient, but it's also free to just be compassion.
@fawnmeats one thing that has softened me abt ppl bringing up their trauma is that if speaking abt trauma in any capacity is "trauma dumping" or "inappropriate", that means they can't talk abt entire slices of their own life, which only increases alienation and isolation.
I am famously someone who Does Not Like when people do this and yet I recognize it is inappropriate and mean to villainize them for it. I am capable of empathy even when I am minorly inconvenienced. Funny how that is possible if u put in a little effort