The recipients of gifts, financial or otherwise, are suddenly as vulnerable as children, especially when the gift comes from someone in authority.
They cannot help opening up; their will is loosened
Money is never spent to
so much advantage as
when you have been
cheated out of it; for at
one stroke you have
purchased prudence.
Arthur Schopenhauer,
1788-1860
The great man who is a miser is a great fool, and a man in high places can have no vice so harmful as avarice.
A miserly man can conquer neither lands nor lordships, for he does not have a plentiful supply of friends with whom he may work his will.
It is also dangerous simply to ask for what you need, no matter how politely:
Unless the other person sees some gain for themselves, they may come to resent your neediness.
Learn to give before you take.
It softens the ground, takes the bite out of a future request, or simply creates a distraction.
And the giving can take many forms:
an actual gift, a generous act, a kind favor, an โhonestโ admission โ whatever it takes.
A gift also involves an indebtedness or obligation; when friends, for instance, offer you something for free, you can be sure they expect something in return, and that to get it they are making you feel indebted.
Rothschild was a man who understood power โ he knew that his fortune would bring him status, but that if he remained socially alienated neither his status nor his fortune would last.
The powerful learn early to protect their most valuable resources: independence and room to maneuver.
By paying the full price, they keep themselves free of dangerous entanglements and worries.
Rothschild was a man who understood power โ he knew that his fortune would bring him status, but that if he remained socially alienated neither his status nor his fortune would last.
Look at the masters of power โ
the Caesars, the Queen Elizabeths, the Michelangelos, the Medicis:
Not a miser among them.
Even the great con artists spend freely to swindle.
Tight purse strings are unattractive.
When we are children, all kinds of complicated feelings about our parents center around gifts;
we see the giving of a gift as a sign of love and approval.
And that emotional element never goes away.
Money has to circulate to bring power.
What money should buy is not lifeless objects but power over people.
By keeping money in constant circulation, Aretino bought an ever-expanding circle of influence that in the end more than compensated him for his expenses.
If you ask for little, shuffle your feet and lower your head, people will assume this reflects your character.
But this behavior is not you โ it is only how you have chosen to
present yourself to others.
You can just as easily present the Columbus front: buoyancy, confiden
Even the most powerful person is locked inside needs of his own, and that if you make no appeal to his self-interest, he merely sees you as desperate or, at best, a waste of time.
There is a popular saying in Japan that goes โTada yori takai
mono wa nai,โ meaning:
โNothing is more costly than something given free of charge. โ
THE UNSPOKEN WAY,
Michihiro
Matsumoto,
1988