Some of you don't realize how much of your personality can disappear when you don’t feel emotionally safe around someone. You become quieter. More careful with your words. Less playful, less willing to be seen. Some connections expand you. Others teach you to disappear.
Someone said: You really can’t scare off a guy who’s genuinely into you, you could literally throw a rock at him and he’d still be like, “damn, she must’ve had a rough day."
self-sabotage is also
• not asking for help
• rejecting praise
• isolating yourself when hurt
• saying "yes" to everything
• putting your needs on hold
• procrastinating on important tasks
• watching too much news
• trying to be perfect
if he brings out the child in you, you’re dating a man. if he brings out the mother in you, you’re dating a boy. if he brings out the inner man in you, you’re dating a loser.
someone said "if you don't let people experience the consequences of their actions towards u, you will remain a safe place for their worst behavior" and I couldn't agree more