not dating to marry, not dating to separate, but a secret third thing (dating to enjoy being with a someone you're compatible with for as long as you both enjoy each other, no matter if that's months or years or the rest of your lives)
the neurodivergent obsession with trying to figure out why someone did what they did. replaying it. analyzing it. asking your friends. asking your therapist. asking your friends again. because your brain literally cannot accept that some people are just cruel for no reason.