I’m so happy man cos these lot stole the win at Old Trafford and were doing that ‘ gotta grind out a win ‘ gimmick! That game stayed with me
Fuck you and your title challenge!!!!
my favourite quote from atomic habits by James clear;
"It doesn't make sense to continue wanting
something if you're not willing to do what it takes to get it. If you don't want to live the lifestyle, then release yourself from the desire. To crave the result but not the process, is to guarantee disappointment"
Please if you have relocated to the UK or US or Canada and you dream to raise your family there
Stop the habit of buying houses in Abuja and Lagos except you are buying it for investment to sell later
Pump all your monies into buying houses in that country you're staying.
Your kids have an 80% chance of not coming back to stay in Nigeria. So all the houses you are accumulating here in Nigeria at the expense of their comfort there, will go to waste.
Buy the houses in the country you're in. It will be easier for your kids to be a part of it even when you die. Also, stop the habit of inconveniencing yourself abroad where you live to build houses back home
The house you build back home, you may live in it 2 weeks in a year. Invest more money in your comfort over there where you live. Life is for the living.
My dad built a very huge home in the village, the house is empty today. no one is in it. None of his kids want it. he himself does not even want it again. that was a total waste of money. that cash in Vanguard VOO or a New York or London real estate business would have yielded close to a million dollars today.
Grow up!
Stop doing things because, its tradition or culture.
Think
Underrated life advice: Own fewer things. Every item you buy is an item you manage. Physically or mentally. Clutter isn’t just in your closet. It lives in your head. When you lessen the load, you free your attention for what matters. Less stuff = less stress. Period.
I always encourage my friends to do things. To put themselves in the arena. Conformity feels safe because it disguises itself as intelligence. But safety and intelligence are not the same thing; sometimes intelligence is choosing to risk your safety for something that matters.
most valuable lesson i’ve learned all year is: if you want something specific out of life, do not entertain anything below it.
do not flirt with other possibilities and outcomes. it’s a waste of energy.
be bizarrely stubborn about what you deserve.
As a general rule, if you have two choices, choose the harder. If you’re trying to decide whether to go to the gym or maybe watch a show, go gyming. The reason this trick probably works so well is that when you have two choices and one is harder, the only reason you’re even considering the easy option is laziness.
Never get too comfortable earning a certain amount of money even if it sorts out your whole bills for a year.
There’s always room to earn more than you are currently.
And do not stay too long in a job that makes you money but contributes little or nothing to your growth (especially if it is a long term role)
…. because at the end of the day, if you loose that job, you might find yourself at a level lower than you were before.
But make sure you have plans in place (no go leave job without a backup plan o)
I love how age and status rarely matter in male friendships. I have friends 5–10 years older and younger, and no one really pulls rank. That said, I make it a point to maintain mutual respect with older friends, and in those circles, maturity is often rewarded with greater trust and access to their networks. I never get too comfortable and start treating them like one of my old bunkmates from OAU. It should be people’s life mission to ensure that access and familiarity never slip into contempt.
Most decisions don’t guarantee outcomes. They initiate transformations. And sometimes, the decision that looked “wrong” becomes the path to what you needed most and you’ll only know that in hindsight, if ever. Every choice is a bet. If it goes wrong, accept it and move on.
Think long and hard about who you are and what really anchors you. I promise you, it will serve you in ways you can’t imagine. It took me years to be able to pin it down with words but it gave me immense clarity and i hope this challenges you.
If you don’t have to make a decision, don’t decide. If you don’t have to reach a conclusion, don’t. You don’t always have to collapse a thought into one judgment or the other.
A major cheat code in life: Choosing curiosity over defensiveness. You don’t get smarter by protecting your ego. You get smarter by asking better questions. “What can I learn here?” will always take you further than “How do I prove I’m right?”
i think we were meant to live slower than this. to grow tomatoes. to take afternoon walks. to cry without apologizing for it. to be bad at things and still do them. we weren’t designed for constant achievement. we were meant for moments. small, soft, nothing-special moments that somehow mean everything.
we have normalised overconsumption. listening to a podcast while we walk, scrolling reels in the toilet, listening to music while we cook, watching a show on Netflix while we eat. it’s as if there is NO breathing space for your mind. you’re constantly trying to fill the void, the stillness and yet here you’re complaining about feeling groggy and demotivated.