You have options in your visualizations. You can start with how you would like to feel and then switch into what you would like to have and who you would like to be with or you can start with what you would like to have and who you like to be with and then ask how you would feel.
Needing other people to give you energy is a major turn-off, just as begging someone to give you money is a major-off. Have the energy people want and they will offer their energy to you. Have the product people want and they will offer their money to you
There is not freedom in how you feel, because you cannot control how you feel, at least not instantaneously. But there is freedom in how you think. That, you can control and that is where you can find your power.
The impulse is to control the feeling, which you cannot do. And that is the number one reason people give their power away, because they are trying to control something that they cannot control, they naturally give up, because they are not getting the results that they want.
Do not disregard your internal guidance system about who is right for you and just look at who you think is hot and who you think is not. How someone else makes you feel lets you know whether or not they are right for you, not their physical appearance.
If you understand the fact that neither acceptance nor rejection has any reflection on your value, you will be more inclined to ask. Because, if you do not ask, the answer is guaranteed to be "No". If you do ask, there is a possibility that you will get a "Yes".
If you are looking for connection, it is found in breathwork. It is interesting how the word "breathwork" and the word "connection" each have the exact same amount of characters. B-R-E-A-T-H-W-O-R-K, ten letters. C-O-N-N-E-C-T-I-O-N, ten letters.
Your power is in your hands. Your love is in God's hands. God sets you up with who you love and who you do not love. The love is out of your control, even though it is the thing that you want to control the most. Your power may be limited physically, but it is limitless mentally.
You of course always have the option of acting in contradiction to the way you feel, but if the way you feel is divine guidance, then it would not be very wise to do that. Unless the way you feel is just anxiety and has absolutely nothing whatsoever to do with what is going on.
Friends are not the people who you can see. Friends are the people who you can feel love from and. And you do not have to be able to see them in order to feel love from them. Breathwork and meditation do wonders.