Marc Wong

If you live and work with people, then you need to learn how to listen.

[Marc Wong @8StepListen]

We can tackle the 2 greatest obstacles to equality:
1) men not appreciating what women face;
2) men thinking women are lesser.

We can inspire men & women to:
1) see themselves in each other; and,
2) see the best in each other.

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[Marc Wong @8StepListen]

@Art0fThinking Listen

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@susandominus BTW, I define listening as putting someone else’s speaking, thinking, feeling needs first. “I listen, therefore you are.” We are in a real sense lending our hearts and minds to others when we listen. 8/8

[Marc Wong @8StepListen]

@susandominus Maybe the client hates teddy bears for some unknown reason. Finally, life and its problems are complex and multi-layered. It could take multiple iterations of discovery and growth to work through issues. This might help explain why there’s no simple way to evaluate therapy. 7/n

[Marc Wong @8StepListen]

@susandominus This can also show where things can go wrong. There’s no teddy bear technique. There’s no single way to earn trust, share knowledge, and inspire positive change. The client may not have understood or appreciated the gesture or technique. 6/n

[Marc Wong @8StepListen]

@susandominus The teddy bear represents the best a counselor can offer. It can include knowledge about psychological disorders and ways to manage them, generic problem solving skills, techniques from different therapeutic traditions, etc. 5/n

[Marc Wong @8StepListen]

@susandominus Let me illustrate. Meghan watches her mother finish a phone call. “Mommy, why are you crying?” she asks. “I’m okay,” her mother responds. Meghan leaves the room and returns moments later. “When I’m sad, I hold on to Mr. Brown,” she says, handing a teddy bear to her mother. 4/n

[Marc Wong @8StepListen]

@susandominus One way a counselor might do that is by offering their best with no strings attached. But there’s no recipe for actually doing it. There’s no guarantee that a particular counselor’s best is what a particular client needs at that moment. 3/n

[Marc Wong @8StepListen]

@susandominus They may help their client to review the past with more compassion, look at the present with more insight and objectivity, and move forward with more skills, hope, and courage. 2/n

[Marc Wong @8StepListen]

@susandominus I think one way counselors help is by earning trust and inspiring the client to think, feel, and practice new skills outside their comfort zone. 1/n

[Marc Wong @8StepListen]

@ChrisCuilla If I haven’t learned anything about my wife’s day, then it probably means I haven’t listened to her.
BTW, I used to work with network firewalls, and I’m curious about your listening journey.

[Marc Wong @8StepListen]

@ChrisCuilla “I think, therefore I am.”
I listen, therefore you are.
We understand and respect, therefore we are.
We bring out the best in each other, therefore we thrive.

[Marc Wong @8StepListen]

@ChrisCuilla Thanks for adding me to your list!

[Marc Wong @8StepListen]

@ChrisCuilla If you didn’t learn anything during a meeting or conversation, then you probably weren’t listening.

[Marc Wong @8StepListen]

@UCFreeListening Absolutely! Work is also full of experiences worth being heard.
Getting sick is also an experience worth being heard. It's no fun being "processed" as a patient, to not have our frailty and mortality acknowledged.

[Marc Wong @8StepListen]

@NathanpmYoung We should regularly ask ourselves, "Do I understand and respect more people than I did a year ago?"

[Marc Wong @8StepListen]

@MichelleObama Helping others.

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@RichardMCNgo Extending Descartes:
I listen, therefore you are.
We understand and respect, therefore we are.
We bring out the best in each other, therefore we thrive.

[Marc Wong @8StepListen]

@NathanpmYoung My idea is not so much to replace capitalism, but to use it to promote pro-social attitudes and skills. Eg. building understanding and respect, and helping others, which is good for individuals, companies, and society.

[Marc Wong @8StepListen]

@katiefhurley What if these labels were forced on us during performance reviews or client meetings? How would that make us feel? 2/2 https://t.co/yD9dbsiCFu

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@katiefhurley People often don't realize their hidden biases against women. What if we forced EVERYONE to wear t-shirts, with the labels, "People question my credentials", or, "People think I'll always put my family ahead of my career". 1/2