Lotta reading/streaming/scrolling alone and brunch/gym/hiking/dinner with their girlfriends and almost nothing else. Next to impossible life and dynamics to break in to as an outsider to her circles.
i regret to inform you that personal growth rarely comes from acquiring new knowledge and almost always from:
•getting humiliated
•showing up terrified and doing it anyway
•admitting you might be the problem
"A man could lose wealth, suffer defeat, or endure hardship and still retain honor. But a man who could not be trusted in his word had already begun to disintegrate inwardly."
From my article: Metaphysics of Oaths: Word-Binding, and the Spoken World.
The husband is called to anchor himself in God.
The wife is called to this individually as well, but the marriage serves as an icon, where the wife anchoring herself in a Christlike husband can be a means of anchoring herself in God. And the two of them act out the dance of Christ and the Church in their lives.
Sometimes the husband is such a terrible image that she has to distance herself from him for her own safety and that of her children. To these abused wives, St Augustine hears the voice of Christ saying to her, “No longer see him as your head, but me.”
But normal marriage is meant to be otherwise—where a wife’s encounter with her husband mirrors Creation’s encounter with God. Because of this, a wife’s view of God is often subtly shaped by her husband.
My wife’s relationship with God improved immensely when I finally got my act together as a man. That doesn’t absolve her of individual responsibility to cultivate a good spiritual life, but it’s just reality that the man has an enormous impact here. Pretending otherwise doesn’t mean he gets to opt out of being Christ’s image bearer to her—it just means she gets stuck with a crappy sacrilegious icon that does more harm than good.
I don’t think we generally take Ephesians 5 seriously enough.
@GiffLasta A man should have his darker warrior traits harnessed for the protection of his loves, his woman, children, brothers and land.. an integrated man will be capable of great violence , evil in other circumstances but justified in service of these.
@wylfcen A woman will *only truly love a man for his real self...this includes the full spectrum, from light to dark traits, strengths and flaws...u can never really mask ur soul anyway
A city on a hill cannot be hidden
once you’ve reached a certain level of spiritual awareness as a woman, you become a force to be reckoned with. many men will instantly sense your transformative power and project in you an opportunity to better themselves and face their unintegrated shadows, seeking to make use of your light to further their own spiritual advancement. it’s extremely important that you withdraw your energy from these leeches as soon as you notice this.
@Psikobilim_ Si las mujeres con mayor inteligencia tienden a puntuar más bajo el atractivo masculino, quizá no es falta de atracción sino un filtro más exigente.
...and he who reproves a wicked man incurs injury. Do not reprove a scoffer, or he will hate you; reprove a wise man, and he will love you....
For the commandment is a lamp and the teaching a light, and the reproofs of discipline are the way of life