Jill Ann

12/9/19

[Murray State Baseball @RacersBaseball]

Absolute cinema

#GoRacers🏇

[Murray State Baseball @RacersBaseball]

Dominant Win

Racers take down SIU in seven.

#GoRacers🏇

[Murray State Baseball @RacersBaseball]

The Schutte Show ™️ was in full effect tonight

@nicschutte_ with his second career complete game.

#GoRacers🏇

[Jill Ann @911_jill]

https://t.co/Rd5W0yBP98

[Logan Whaley @LoganWhaleyWPSD]

Kainen Jorge was the hero for Murray State (@RacersBaseball) today, delivering a walkoff single in the bottom of the 9th to cap a 5-run comeback for the Racers, beating Illinois State 6-5.

Racers complete the sweep over Redbirds to move to 24-16, 10-5 MVC.

Video: @MikeyWalsh8

[Murray State Baseball @RacersBaseball]

With last night's win, Coach Skirka becomes the third-winningest head coach in Murray State history! Congrats, Coach!

#GoRacers🏇

[Tell me no Lies 💔❤️‍🩹➡️❤️🥰🌹💪🏻🚫Narcissists🚫 @lovewins11011]

Unless you’ve personally experienced a narcissist or know someone who has, you have no idea the level of deception, manipulation and cruelty these types are capable of.

[DOCJT @KYDOCJT]

Once again, every tag on the Angel Tree at DOCJT was claimed. This tradition never fails to remind us of the generosity and compassion of our staff, who show up year after year to help make the holidays brighter for children in our community.

[Ryan Daigler - Exposing Narcissistic Abuse 🚩🚩 @Ryan_Daigler]

There’s a cruel paradox that scapegoats of narcissistic abuse often face.
If you handle the abuse with strength—staying composed, functioning, keeping up appearances—people assume nothing was ever wrong. Your pain is invisible, and so is the abuse.
But if the trauma catches up with you… if you break down, develop anxiety, depression, or PTSD—suddenly you look like the unstable one. And to outside observers, that just seems to confirm the narcissist’s narrative that you were the problem all along.
This is how scapegoats are retraumatized by a world that misunderstands trauma—and how narcissists get away with it.

[Jill Ann @911_jill]

Just a reminder to the one that still checks in on my posts 👀.
I am the one that figured you out.

[The Biblical Man @Biblicalman]

My wife stopped saying "thank you" when I did the dishes.

I noticed.

I was offended.

"I'm helping," I thought. "Where's the gratitude?"

One night I said it out loud.

"I did the dishes. Again."

She looked at me like I'd asked for a medal.

"You live here too."

That's when it hit me.

I wasn't "helping."

I was living in my own house and acting like a guest who occasionally tidied up.

She didn't need help.

She needed a partner who stopped waiting to be thanked for what he should've been doing anyway.

Your wife doesn't need a helper.

She needs a man who stops keeping score.

[The Biblical Man @Biblicalman]

My wife stopped fighting with me in 2018.

I thought we'd finally figured it out.

No more arguments about the dishes. No more sighing when I forgot something. No more asking me to help with things I should've noticed myself.

Peace.

That's what I called it.

For two years I lived in that silence thinking we'd reached some kind of marital maturity.

Then one night—11 PM, night before Thanksgiving—I found her crying in the kitchen.

Making pie crust from scratch because my mother had made a comment the year before about store-bought being "fine, I guess."

I asked what was wrong.

She looked at me like I was a stranger.

"Nothing."

That's when I realized:

She hadn't stopped fighting because things were better.

She stopped fighting because she stopped believing I would ever change.

The silence wasn't peace.

It was resignation.

She'd built her entire life around my absence…while I was still in the house. Eating the food she cooked. Sleeping in the bed she made. Parenting the kids she was raising.

And I called it partnership because I brought home a paycheck.

Most men don't have a marriage problem.

They have an absence problem.

Their wives stopped asking because asking hurt too much.

So they carry it alone. The meals. The schedules. The mental load. The holidays.

And we sit on the couch checking our phones thinking "at least we're not fighting anymore."

Brother, fighting would be better.

Anger means she still believes you could change.

Silence means she made peace with the fact that you won't.

Tomorrow is Thanksgiving.

Your wife is going to wake up before you. Start cooking while you sleep. Manage the chaos while you watch the parade. Clean up while you digest.

Unless you don't let her.

I wrote the protocol for coming home to a marriage you've been absent from.

The 5 stages of wifely resignation.
Why "I'll do better" doesn't work anymore.
The 30-day silent rebuilding system.
The conversation she needs to hear.

It's called "When She Stopped Asking."

Link below if you want it.

But whether you buy it or not—wake up first tomorrow.

[Ryan Daigler - Exposing Narcissistic Abuse 🚩🚩 @Ryan_Daigler]

The narcissist knows when they went too far being abusive and crossed the line. And they get scared that it’s going to ruin they’re fake perfect image that they have worked so hard for if their victim speaks up.
So they immediately switch to victim mode to control the narrative. This is their default get-out-of-trouble card. “Vilify their victim, play the victim” BEFORE their actual victim has a chance to report them. And they can be very convincing because they feel no shame or remorse for what they’ve done, they are ONLY concerned about people finding out the truth about them. So they lie easily and convincingly.

[Lane Johnson @LaneJohnson65]

YOU ARE NOT ALONE! 🙏

[SSN - Dallas Cowboys @SSN_Cowboys]

🙏🏻💙

[🧈 @ButterAubrey]

Please always ask for help. I promise you you’re never alone.

[Libriscent @libriscent]

ONE-SIDED NARCISSIST

Have you ever noticed that a narcissist can do the most hurtful, cruel, or shocking things to you, and by the very next morning, it’s as if nothing ever happened? This is one of the most confusing and disorienting experiences for anyone trapped in their world. They behave like nothing occurred, leaving you questioning your own memory, your own feelings, and even your own sanity. This is intentional—it’s part of their manipulation. It’s grooming you to accept that you are always the one who must forgive, forget, and never bring it up again, no matter how deeply you were hurt.

And yet, the moment you do something—even the smallest thing—that they perceive as wrong, they will fixate on it relentlessly. They will remind you, accuse you, and replay it over and over, making sure you carry the weight of guilt, shame, or fear for as long as they want. This is the one-sided nature of narcissistic behavior: their actions are excused, minimized, or erased, while your mistakes, real or imagined, are amplified and never forgotten.

Living in this constant imbalance is exhausting, confusing, and isolating. You are taught to bend, accommodate, and justify their behavior, all while learning that your own boundaries, emotions, and experiences are meaningless to them. It is a silent form of control, a methodical reshaping of your reality, where you are always the one chasing peace, while they dictate the terms of the relationship.