If you find yourself trying to fall in love to fall out of love, and making memories with someone else to forgot old ones, you won't be satisfied. You're making the things worse instead of trying to heal by finding happines again, by yourself from within.
Racism is NOT enacted through name calling or ways of thinking, it comes through laws and policies and tangible systemic functions. You can NOT defeat racism through symbolism alone, you have to incrementally pick at it through the same systems that allow it to operate.