Marriage is meant to provide tranquillity. This tranquillity cannot develop simply because 2 people share an address. It requires time, attention, communication, patience, a willingness to understand the other person's feelings & circumstances.
A major marital ailment of our time is the husband who treats the home as a mere transit station—a place to sleep, eat, and change clothes—while dedicating his best energy, humor, and time to friends outside.
One of the most productive questions we can ask ourselves is this:
If I spent as much time correcting my own shortcomings as I spend discussing the shortcomings of others, how much better would I become?
Before speaking or typing check:
1. Is it true?
2. Is it necessary?
3. Is it beneficial?
4. Is this the right time and place?
5. Can I say it in a better way?
Truth does not require cruelty. Advice does not require humiliation. Correction does not require embarrassment.
"We have to repent to Allah and seek His forgiveness for not fulfilling the right (Haqq) of Nabī Karīm صلى الله عليه وسلم as we should." (Hadhrat Maulana Yusuf Motala Saheb ra)
Fear may restrain a child for a time, but love of Allah, hope in His reward and sincere conviction help the child choose obedience willingly—even when no one is watching.
The cure to all evil traits is reflection & forbearance (ta'ammul and tahammul). 1st to reflect before any action if the action is permitted in Shariah. 2nd to exercise forbearance and not rush into an action without considering its consequences (Thanwi ra)
Lesson to myself & readers. Keep inspiring,keep motivating,never give up. Met a person who migrated 7 years ago. Said that I taught him a dua for pious children which he has always been reading. I had forgotten but he was so appreciative. Dua was (Qur’an 25:74).
“ O Disciple, advice is easy ‒ what is difficult is accepting it, for it is bitter in taste to those who pursue vain pleasure, since forbidden things are dear to their hearts.” - Imām Ghazāli
@AbuSulaym94 Mufti Saeed Palanpuri ra said to start back from Baqara. You've read until Muflihoon the day before so why jump to Alamtara. Found that interesting. Also reading the surahs you suggested make sense as many congregants can follow.
@digicelbarbados a line from the utility pole has dropped and is obstructing our path into our home. The @FlowBarbados team visited immediately and said it is your line (Thanks @FlowBarbados) This is nearly a week and inspite of constant calls we haven't had a response.