A friend who constantly brings drama to your doorstep but never actually takes your advice is using you for emotional outsourcing. They aren't looking for a solution or growth; they are looking for a container to dump their toxic stress into so they can feel temporarily lighter. The moment they leave, they return right back to the chaos, leaving you to carry the weight of a heavy dynamic that was never yours to carry in the first place.
According to psychology, the urge to immediately fix a partner’s or friend’s distress instead of just sitting with them in it isn't empathy; it is your own low frustration tolerance. When someone you love is hurting, and you instantly jump into problem-solving mode, offering unsolicited advice or trying to find a silver lining, you are often trying to soothe your own secondary anxiety. You aren't rescuing them from their pain; you are rescuing yourself from the discomfort of witnessing a vulnerability you don't know how to hold.
Yall think this is funny but it’s truly sad. A man could literally be dying and still have enough energy to sexually assault a woman trying to save his life.