If I seem distant, then please know that I have been feeling and processing my own and the collective's anger, anxiety, fear, and sadness about what happened, and transmuting this heavy energy. I am very careful not to project negative energy and release it back to the world.
When your ex comes back, it may not always mean that your ex came back for you. When a bird leaves its cage and comes back, it didn't come back for its owner, but for the familiar comfort, food, and shelter. Most importantly, it failed to find a better place than its old cage.