I always say this that many people marry who God didn’t choose for them but lived a very good marriage, while many married who God choose for them but the marriage packed up…
It’s takes 2 people who are ready to make marriage work to succeed in marriage
Unfortunately, Liverpool isn’t an attacking team anymore. The pace of our plays is so slow and lacks excitement. I can even predict passes like a game of FC26
It was the same contradiction in the communal cooking discourse. You argued that women coming together to cook unpaid for family or community events is slavery and exploitation of women’s labour, a fantastic point.
But beyond the reasonable “hire a caterer” suggestion (often inaccessible in poorer settings, and we live in a poor country), the most popular and ridiculous stance was: “I won’t do it, but I’ll drive my Benz to the venue (where other women are doing the work you’ve labelled dehumanising/slavery) and gift them money for it.”
On one hand, you insist the labour is dehumanising. On the other, you’re comfortable benefiting from it, as long as it’s not your body, time, or labour.
Some went further, refusing to participate because communal cooking can be a space where women bully others for “not knowing how to do things properly” another fantastic point. Yet, in the same breath, you typed & tweeted that you’re willing to show up, money in hand, to that same space, fully aware bullying occurs, believing the bullies will treat you better once pay them. That isn’t solidarity; it’s self-exemption.
The feminist politics of Nigerian/African women need serious reevaluation. Too often, it’s not about the dignity or rights of all women, but individual escape. As long as you’re not doing the “dehumanising” labour, it becomes acceptable for other women to do it, especially when money changes hands.
I feel our attack patterns are too robotic and rigid. I can tell how the attack is gonna go and at what point it’s gonna be blocked.
That’s what we should be looking to fix
Yesterday I noticed the office printer was working perfectly, which raised my suspicion immediately.
I checked the logs and saw someone had cleared a paper jam at 3:12 p.m.
No ticket, no Slack, no communication.
Just silent action.
I asked the office if anyone had fixed it.
Everyone looked confused except one employee, who stared at his laptop a little too hard.
I pulled him aside afterward.
He admitted he unjammed it because “it was right there” and “took five seconds.”
I told him unilateral problem-solving disrupts our culture of collaboration and that he needed to go through the right channels if he wanted to take on a new project outside of his job description.
He said he didn’t realize fixing things was a chain-of-command issue.
I told him everything is a chain-of-command issue.
I wrote down “rogue operational autonomy” and locked the printer tray.