Àyànfé Òrun

Lover • Reader • Aspiring enviable Husband and Father of Three • Prototype of God's architecture.

[Ogundipe, Esq. @The_Ogundipe]

To be honest, I do not mind enforcement of the ban on vehicles with tinted glass at this point. The police are insisting that it is being used by criminal elements. Fine. Enforce it and let us see a corresponding drop in crime rates.

However, @PoliceNG, I just saw the Commissioner of Police, @FCT_PoliceNG, Prof. A.M Sanusi, talking about the enforcement. In his words:

"Whether you have the tint permit or not, if we get you with your tinted vehicle, we will arrest you".

Arrest someone who paid you and obtained tint permit for using the permit you issued him?

CoP Sir, such step is ill-advised. You cannot issue a paid tint permit to people and start arresting them again. You cannot eat your cake and have it. If the police issued me a tint permit (whether paid or free), and I got arrested later for driving the car I obtained the tint for, I will drag the police all the way to every court recognised by the laws of this land.

Maybe you should stop issuing the permit and make a refund to those who already obtained it. You cannot deal with such issue by adopting a knee-jerk or emotional approach.

May I also use this opportunity to commend you, Mr. CoP Sir, for your efforts towards combating insecurity.

I wish you the best, Sir.

[MuscleMindzzz @BackToBasiczzz]

Daily exercise to Get rid of belly fat & get in shape

[Baby Zee❤️😂😂🤌🤌(Ólùkọ́ àwọn ọmọ líle) @hayzed0709]

Everything isn't about cocomelon or exposing them to screen time 🤌🤌🤌
But you are too busy 🌚🌚

[𝗗𝗿 𝗔𝗵𝗺𝗲𝗱 𝗞𝗮𝗹𝗲𝗯𝗶, 𝕆𝔾𝕎 @DrAhmedKalebi]

𝗥𝗲𝗹𝘂𝗰𝘁𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝗦𝗹𝗮𝘂𝗴𝗵𝘁𝗲𝗿… 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗟𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗼𝗻 𝗤𝘂𝗿𝗯𝗮𝗻𝗶 𝗛𝗮𝘀 𝗧𝗮𝘂𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝗠𝗲

For nearly 20 years now, I have personally slaughtered my Qurbani goat with my own hands every Eid-ul-Adha.

But TBH, it has never come naturally to me. I have always carried a deep reluctance to kill any animal.

MY very first time to slaughter an animal was back in 1990 as a teenager, during my first visit to my paternal village in Kiungu, Uganda, when an elderly grandmother handed me a goat to slaughter - a great cultural honour for every visiting male of the bloodline.

Unfortunately I completely froze and the whole village burst into laughter at “the city boy who couldn’t slaughter a goat.” 😅

After much persuasion from my uncle Rasheed Xisamo and the old lady herself, I reluctantly agreed to slaughter a chicken instead - while feeling utterly aghast.

One elderly man however defended my dignity by saying:

“Leave this one alone… he is built to become a doctor.”

He was right. I became a doctor.

Yet even after medical school,, surgery, blood, hospitals, pathology and postmortems, that discomfort with slaughtering animals never really left me.

Every Eid, I would conveniently let others handle the Qurbani while I remained supportively involved from a safe distance. 😇

Then came 2006 in Johannesburg during my first year of studying pathology fellowship in South Africa - alone with my family.

I was once again planning to simply arrange and pay for someone to slaughter the goat on my behalf - until the Imam’s Eid sermon that morning stopped me in my tracks.

He spoke about Nabii Ibrahim (AS):

“Ibrahim would never naturally have wanted to sacrifice his own son. Yet when Allah commanded him, he was prepared to do it with his own hands, without hesitation.”

His message was that who are we to recoil from Qurbani merely because of blood, dirt, discomfort or squeamishness?

Those words pierced deeply.

That very same day, I went home and performed the sacrifice myself - not because I suddenly overcame my abhorrence of slaughtering, but because I finally deeply understood doing Qurbani with one’s own hands to be a high act of worship, submission and obedience to Allah.

Ever since that Eid in 2006, I have personally slaughtered my own Qurbani every single year. Now my sons join me too.

Ultimately, Qurbani is not really about slaughter.

Qurbani means sacrifice:
✔️ Sacrifice of comfort.
✔️ Sacrifice of excuses.
✔️ Sacrifice of ego.
✔️ Sacrifice of self.
💫 All in submission to the Almighty.

Alhamdulillah 🤲🏾

#EidMubarak 🕋🐐

[The Lady of jannah @BeingMuneerah]

Omar Suleiman in one of his Ramadan series episode said;

If Allah can be patient, waiting for you to return to Him and doesn’t punish you immediately after you commit a sin, why can’t you be patient with His plans and trust Him over your own desires?

[Kiemute @FreshDeltaBwoy]

For those who don't know the penalty when you break any of the FRSC law.

https://t.co/3d4zDYzShA

[Global Relocation Guide @_AustriaUpdates]

I have been using my Nigerian phone numbers (+234) since I relocated to Austria many years ago. This is my usual practice, even when I visited Nigeria recently.

I recharge NGN1,000 every six months and then call a family member using that amount. My phone number remains active. Alternatively, you can use MTN or Airtel to keep your number active.

MTN allows you to pay a small fee to keep your line active for up to 3 years, even if you don't use it.

1 Year: Dial *305*1# (costs ₦400)
2 Years: Dial *305*2# (costs ₦800)
3 Years: Dial *305*3# (costs ₦1,200)

2. AIRTEL

Airtel protects your line from disconnection for up to 1 year.

1 Year: Dial *121*5*2# (costs ₦500)

Hope this helps!

[Nina Deer @longdepzai_n]

Spread your arms wide at random and see how your other half reacts.

[Èyítànwá (토이바) 🇳🇬🇰🇷 @mus_toyy]

You will always think N2m will solve your problems until you make N2m. You will think traveling abroad will solve your financial problems until you start living abroad.

You will struggle from getting student visa to looking for a good job, permanent residency, worrying about mortgages, insurance premiums, taxes and stuff,even though you might be more comfortable than when you where in your home country.

When you’re single, you will think marriage will remove loneliness until you get married.

The future and goals are deceptive.

They appear as final solutions to life’s struggles. But they’re mere junctions in the long, complex journey we’re into on earth.

Life is in phases…. but struggle is constant. No matter the money, passport or location, everyone is battling pains per time.

Nothing will take away all struggles. You can only get NEW struggles. Our wish and prayers is that the new struggle should be less brutal than the former, but we must have some discomfort.

It’s an existential principle.

Orderliness is a fantasy, chaos is the rule of nature.

[Gimba Kakanda @gimbakakanda]

This applies even more to marriages these days. The idea that you have to advertise to the world that you are having the best marriage is itself a red flag. You can quietly enjoy your marriage, or buy your spouse the world, without inviting the entire internet to the performance.

[Gabriel F Harris @geebereal99]

I have a bachelor’s degree and a master’s in Arabic linguistics. I’ve been living in the Arab world for 14 years.

And honestly? The more I learn about this language, the less I feel like I know.
Because Arabic doesn’t just name things. It connects them in ways that make you stop and rethink everything.
Let me give you a few examples.

[Arojinle @arojinle1]

A little correction:

1. There's no snake whose babies kill their mother before coming out. Snakes either lay eggs (oviparous) or give birth to fully developed babies after the eggs hatch inside them (ovoviviparous). Babies snakes don't eat their ways out of their mothers.

2. If a venomous snake hatches or gives birth to a baby, the baby is born with the ability to envenomate. Baby venomous snakes (snakelets) don't wait for 40 days before being venomous. They're born venomous

3. Venomous snakes don't take their venoms from trees. Their venoms are produced from their venom glands, located around their eyes.

Thank you!

[Michael Taiwo @AskMichaelTaiwo]

This is me during my Shell Recruitment Day in November 2011.

1hr after the whole day group interview, I got the phone call I can never forget, “Congratulations, they all loved you. When can you start?”

If you have an upcoming group interview where they put a bunch of you together in a room and give you a task to work on together, then sit up.

I will tell you my secrets.

I don’t need them anymore and it can help you land your dream job.

They are what I used during my SRD.

I have given the same playbook to many mentees who used them to land their dream jobs in various companies.

So, trust me, this works.

A 🧵

[Àyànfé Òrun @Abusgar]

@SirJarus You actually gave a good fight. 😃

[Ayobola Adebowale @YourBabysDoctor]

- Books
- Invest in packs of A4 paper and lot of crayons for drawing and colouring
- You can never go wrong woth building blocks
- Role play
- Outdoor activities (They will ditch the screen for the opportunity to play with sand or at the playground or just run around.

IT WILL ALSO REQUIRE YOU TO BE PRESENT!

**DO NOT give them your smart phone; if they have to have screen time, let it be on the TV**

I have a 3-year-old (would be 4 tomorrow) and a 22-month-old. They get screentime only on weekends.

[Glorious God @GloriousGod01]

This question is actually deep and hits home for so many people. Without the password or biometrics, modern phones (especially iPhones) use strong encryption that keeps everything locked.

Simply resetting or "flashing" the phone usually wipes all your photos, messages, and important data forever, leaving families with nothing but frustration and lost memories.

The smart solution is to plan ahead right now while you still can:

FOR IPHONE USERS:
Go to Settings > tap your name at the top > Sign-In & Security > Legacy Contact.

Add one or more trusted people (like a spouse, child, or sibling). You'll get an access key to share with them.

After you pass, they just need that key plus a copy of your death certificate to request access to your Apple account and data.

It's straightforward and doesn't require going to court in most cases.

FOR ANDROID/GOOGLE USERS:
Go to https://t.co/ZXZMiSLgfb, sign in, then head to Data & Privacy > More options > Make a plan for your digital legacy (or search for Inactive Account Manager).

Choose a waiting period (like 3 to 18 months of inactivity), pick trusted contacts, and decide what data to share (Gmail, photos, Drive files, etc.). Google will notify them and give access if the account goes inactive.

Do this today. It only takes a few minutes, but it can save your loved ones from huge headaches later.

Most people never think about it until it's too late, and precious memories or important information end up locked away forever.

Above all, love God.

[Pope Leo XIV @Pontifex]

Woe to those who manipulate religion and the very name of God for their own military, economic, and political gain, dragging that which is sacred into darkness and filth. #ApostolicJourney #Cameroon https://t.co/bKteFZ3iWE

[A.Y.O @YusufAsunmogejo]

Since the past 24 hours that I made the tweet on child parenting solution, my DM has been buzzing. I checked them, and one thing was quite common to all: Parents who are not happy about their kid’s performance in school, and they have approached it the wrong way.

If you fall in this category, this post is for you.

Many of us use brutal force because expectations are too high, and the anger is just too much. The scholar Ibn al-Jawzi explained in his book Sayd al-Khatir that intellect is a Rizq (provision) from God, just like money or health.

He said some people are born with a wide vessel and others with a narrow one. If you try to force the water of a whole sea into a small cup, you will only spill the water and ruin the cup. This is what many of us are doing. We are trying to force a "doctor's brain" into a child whose cup was designed for something else.

By that, it causes a soul-crushing resentment in the child. Imam Al-Ghazali described this beautifully in Ihya’ Ulum al-Din. He warned parents about a state called “Al-Malal”, where a child builds resentment because they are pushed beyond their limit. Everyone wants the best for their child. No doubt. However, if you keep yelling at them for things they cannot grasp yet, you make them hate the very sight of a book. You are closing the door to their heart while trying to kick open the door to their mind.

Then what is the solution? It is simple.

Going forward, every parent should make efforts to start looking for the Fath (the opening) in their kids. What does this mean? This is the lane the Almighty has prepared for them. In our history, if a child is slow with grammar or math, the scholars don’t call them a failure. They move them to a trade, a craft or a service.

How then do you identify this Fath (Opening) in your child? Please pay close attention to me…

(1) The first phase is Observation. Ibn al-Qayyim mentioned a concept called Istid’ad (natural readiness) in his book titled: Tuhfat al-Mawdud. This means you want to watch/observe/look at the child when they think nobody is looking. This is your first tool. For the next two weeks, stop talking about school. Do not worry yourself about how they perform on their homework.

Instead, keep a "Strength Log." Every evening, write down one thing they did well that had nothing to do with a classroom. Did they fix a broken toy? Did they calm down a crying sibling? Did they organise their shoes? You are looking for their Istid’ad (natural readiness). If they are "book-slow" but "people-smart" or "hand-smart," that is where the key has been placed.

(2) Introduce “Project or Craft” early on. Ibn Khaldun, in his Muqaddimah, argued that projects/crafts are high forms of intelligence that build civilizations. He argued that some minds are designed to understand the physical world better than the abstract one.

Give them a "Project Day." Buy a basic tool kit, a sewing machine, or a coding starter kit. Give them a broken radio or a piece of furniture to fix. Delegate. Give them a real-world task that has a visible result. When a child who fails at math sees that they can build a table or bake a perfect loaf of bread, their internal shame starts to heal. They realize they are not stupid; they were just in the wrong room.

(3) Kill the Comparison Virus. Imam Al-Zarnuji, in his classic work Ta’lim al-Muta’allim, explained that a student should only study what fits their nature. He said that forcing a student into a field they have no taste for is a waste of their life and the teacher's time. When you compare your child to others, you are catching a virus that blinds you to their path. Always filter.

When family members start bragging about their kids' grades, you must be the shield. Tell them, "My child is mastering the art of (so so and so)." You are teaching your child that success is not a single ladder. There are many ladders to it. And if you do not value their ladder, they will stop climbing.

(4) Prioritize Character Building. Put more efforts to praise your kids for their good character. Always tell them you love them when they behave well or show good character. Character recognition helps the child build a good self-image, which translates into self-confidence and barrier-breaking for the child. Prioritise this.

(5) Don’t underestimate the power of your words. Always pray to God to grant them their opening. The scholars taught that the "opening" is a gift from Al-Fattah (The Opener). Supplicate.

In your Sujud or in your prayers, stop asking for them to be a doctor/engineer, and what have you. Ask for the door that was made for them to be opened. Ask Him to show you the Fath so you can stop pushing them against a closed wall.

Always remember, a parent who finds the "Fath (The Opening)" for their child has given them a gift better than a degree. You have given them a purpose. Start that journey NOW. It’s never too late…

Thank you for your attention.

Allah knows best.

[A.Y.O @YusufAsunmogejo]

Dear Parents,

I want to share one parenting secret with you. The one you won’t find in your regular blogs. And trust me, regardless of your faith, you will find this tip beneficial.

I want to explain why some kids become completely stubborn the more you punish them. I am doing this because I got some messages yesterday from people who have kids in the diaspora and how their kids have become stone-hearted to their parents’ warnings. It is indeed painful.

Remember that I mentioned the monumental book of Imam Al-Ghazali, Ihya’ Ulum al-Din. We have more things to learn from it.

In this book, he talked about a fragile part of a child's mind called the “Veil of Shame.” Note: Every child has this because they are born upon Fitrah (purity of the soul).

When a child does something bad for the first time, they usually try to hide it. They are afraid of being caught because they still value their dignity in your eyes.

The scholars explained that if a parent exposes the child, screams, yells at them, and punishes every mistake, you are tearing down their veil of shame.

Once a child realizes you already see them as a bad person, the humiliation has happened. They stop caring. You have destroyed their internal brakes. When they have no dignity left to protect, they will start doing those bad things openly and boldly.

How do you notice this in your child?

You can tell this is happening in your child when they stop trying to hide their mistakes and start becoming brazen or "strong-headed" when caught. This is a sign that the veil is thinning.

To fix this, you need to use a concept called Taghaful. It translates to intentional ignorance or pretending you did not see a fault.

Our Prophet (peace be upon him) taught us this. He did this with a young companion called Usama bin Zaid. But I see that our parents, due to their high expectations, are often too impatient to look away.

If you catch your child doing a hidden wrong, sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is pretend you did not see it. Do not confront them and strip them of their respect.

Instead, bring up the topic later in a general conversation. Tell a story about why that action is destructive, without looking at them or accusing them. Let their own conscience do the punishing. Let them repent and fix it in secret.

A parent who hunts down every small mistake will end up raising a child who has no shame left to lose.

Let me know if you want more of these scholarly parenting tips. I will be willing to share. My DM is full with different issues. I cannot answer everything, but I am sure with these tips, a lot of those issues will be solved by God’s grace.

Thank you for your attention.

Allah knows best.

[A.Y.O @YusufAsunmogejo]

Hello Lola, I am a Muslim, and our spiritual tradition has a very deep approach to raising children. I want to share some tips from our scholars that will be beneficial to you regardless of your faith.

First of all, our theology teaches the concept of Fitrah. This means that every child is born with a pure heart. At six years old, she is not a criminal mastermind. She does not have a wicked soul.

If she doesn’t have all these, then what is happening? The truth is that she is just lacking impulse control and testing boundaries. By this, if you look at her as a manipulator, you will fight her. However, if you look at her as a pure soul making mistakes, you will be able to guide her.

Secondly, for every problem anyone faces today, it has been solved in history. The only problem is how to locate them.

A classical scholar named Al-Ghazali wrote about child psychology over 900 years ago in his famous book “Ihya Ulum al-Din.” In his section on disciplining children, he gave a practical rule I want you to adopt going forward.

He advised that parents should never push a child into a corner where they are forced to lie. When you ask a question you already know the answer to, her survival instinct kicks in. She cries and she lies to defend herself because she is scared of you. Stop interrogating her. Just look at her and state the fact. Say, I know you took this, and we are going to return it right now.

Again, another scholar and sociologist Ibn Khaldun addressed this exact behavior in his masterpiece titled: “Al-Muqaddimah.” He warned that when a child is raised with harsh punishment, they learn deceit, trickery, and lying to protect themselves. This is why she is covering her tracks and crying to manipulate you. The fear of a harsh reaction is making her a better liar.

Lola, do not attach a label to her. Do not ever call her a thief. If you attack her identity instead of her action, she will internalize it and grow into that dark label. Tell her the action is wrong but protect her dignity.

Make her return the item. Do not fall for the tears. Hold her hand, walk her back to wherever she took it from, and make her hand it back and apologize. The discomfort of returning a stolen item teaches a much better lesson than beating her will ever do.

Finally, I don’t know if you are a Muslim, but never underestimate the power of your own words. In our faith, we believe the prayer of a parent for a child goes straight to God without any barrier. Pray over her. Pray for her heart to be content and for her character to be straight.

Keep doing this consistently and the habit will break.

Allah knows best.