@burnthelilacs Yea, I’m aware. It just becomes an issue when randoms argue the validity of other people’s identities simply bc they don’t want to follow cishet guidelines. The majority of trans people who are gnc know they don’t really pass
@dwecayedgirl A lot of it comes from people, for whatever reason, not seeing avoidant style as a trauma response and instead as something people do for no reason
@dwecayedgirl It’s so wildly unfair how each side is treated, with avoidants being treated like they’re inherently evil with 0 redeemable qualities and anxious styles being framed as helpless little victims who do no wrong. BOTH are toxic attachments styles come on now
@EeveeStevey@dwecayedgirl You realize avoidants also are avoidant because of the way they’ve been treated in the past, right? Both are unhealthy coping mechanisms formed due to trauma.
@nonstopbrocock Get what you’re saying but half the time it’s not helpful advice, it’s other people in the community tearing down trans men for being OK with being a little feminine and not hating themself enough
@moontellings I genuinely don’t understand how people can feel anything towards someone they aren’t established friends with already… you going out with a stranger