We’re slowly getting used to an insane amount of violence. Levels of violence that are unprecedented. We’re seeing children whipped and burnt and we’re scrolling.
A person who does not smoke, drink, swallow harmful foods, do drugs or engage in any risky behaviour can also get cancer.
Sometimes, cancer just happens
So health influencers, stop this thing that when anybody dies from cancer, you start shouting, smoking, alcohol, bla bla
Babies get raped. Elderly women get raped. Women dressed modestly get raped. Women in hijabs get raped. Nuns get raped. Women in jeans, tracksuits, pajamas, school uniforms, and work uniforms get raped. There is no outfit that prevents rape and no outfit that invites it.
If you are more comfortable analyzing a woman’s clothing than condemning a rapist, you are part of the problem.
Yes I’ll admit
That post about Caesarian section triggered me
Because I’m a woman who was in labour for 40 hours
I was given the maximum dose of oxytocin three times to induce labour and did not dilate beyond 2cm
I was so mentally prepared to push out a human but my body just wouldn’t
Which one should I talk about?
The intense pain ripping through me every few minutes?
Should I talk about how excruciating it is to have doctors check you for dilation while you’re actively in labour?
Should I talk about the exhaustion?
Should I talk about how that when those who have vaginal delivery have long forgotten CS moms are still grappling with wounds and pain and numbness and tingling from the anaesthetsia?
I had my baby in Canada and the nurses kept asking me if I wanted a pain relief
I did not want any drug to interfere
I was ready to bear the pain and I did
I think I have the most supportive husband in the world. He stood there every second with me. Holding my hand. Wincing as Pain coursed through me
But he did not feel the pain. Not the physical one.
I did.
So has every woman who has gone through this
When the doctors saw that my contractions were not the “good type”, they said I could get a uterine rupture, I had to be taken for a CS.
And everyday I’m grateful to God for the miracle of a CS
That a mother who has given her all can still have her baby and they both be fine
So sir, when you have had contractions for 40 hours
When you have had 7 layers of your body sliced open so you can bring forth children
When you have gone months nursing a wound that is layers deep
When you’ve been placed on a cold surgical table and cut 7 layers deep
For some 4 times.
Then come back and have this Conversation with me
Thank God for your mother and the long line of women in your family that had vaginal deliveries.
But no two women are the same.
Don’t put that burden on the woman you would marry.
A CS is not a shortcut
A CS does not make a woman weak
A CS does not happen because you did not pray enough or you’re unlucky
A CS is a medical miracle so that women like me especially pre term moms, can come out alive from the mystery that is pregnancy and childbirth
Blessings.
The Hippocratic Oath says "DO NO HARM."
But working 72-hour shifts causes harm.
Underfunded hospitals cause harm.
Unpaid salaries cause harm.
Where is the oath that protects the doctor?
honestly cannot find anything more peaceful than sleeping during the day to avoid everyone, and staying up through the night because it's the only time when everything is quiet