“This is an international call”
I don’t understand why Nigerian elders have to announce that a call they are about to pick is international. What are we supposed to do with that information?
Can't fault this particular decision. He will provide for his wife and kids. His brother gets to provide for his wife and kids.
His brother not having a job means he gets to take care of his immediate family and his brother's responsibility.
Friend A was telling me about Friend B. They both live in abuja. A said if he was stranded on the road at midnight because his car developed a fault, B is someone he can call, even if B doesn't have a car at that point. He said B would find a way to come pick him up. B has on a number of occasions called A to follow him pick someone up at the dead of the night. So he knows that if A can do it for these other people, he will do it for him. The problem many of you have is that you're looking for who is kind to you alone, and unkind to others. Your vetting skill is terrible.
One time I was hanging out with Friend A and Friend C. It was my first time meeting with C. I knew C through A but we were meeting in person for the first time. We went clubbing and C couldn't even club because he was high. He just laid on the club chair and slept. Myself and Friend A took his Phone, money and wallet and kept in our possession, put a cushion under his head and allowed him sleep through the noise. When we were done, we drove C home and put him to bed. When his head was clear, he confessed he hadn't experienced friendship like that and was being too appreciative. It was funny because what else were friends supposed to do when one is vulnerable? I had known A for 15 years and I would take a bullet for him. Protecting C came naturally to us because of value system.
We often talk about people recommending you for gigs or job, and mentioning your name in closed door meetings. People also recommend friendship when they find you trustworthy. People will not trust you because you ask them to. You have to make yourself trustworthy. Trust is earned. The thing about friendship is that, if you want friends, you have to first make yourself friendly. Are your friends secret safe with you? Can you give your life for them? Will you show up when they need you? Friendship is not confessional, it is sacrificial.
The thief beside Jesus on the Cross, reminds me of X. He looked at the other guy who wanted to drag Jesus and was like:
"we be robbers ooo. We don run things. This cross wey we dey, we deserve am. But Jesus own na agenda. This man no do anything. Dem dey crucify person ontop agenda? Boss, abeg anywhere you go from here, carry me join body."