Our grandmothers didn’t talk about nervous system regulation. They lived it. Sewing, baking slowly, folding by hand. Repetition, quiet focus, hands busy, body safe. Calm was handmade.
the biggest lie i be telling people is "i respect your decision" i really don't at all. that shit sound stupid as hell to me but that's your life to live
when someone does something for me, i immediately start thinking of what i could do to thank them in return. i'm actually very appreciative of consideration and acts of service
I might get attacked for this but if your man ain’t buying you expensive hair and bags .. but he’s still opening doors, making sure you eat, pulling out a chair for you, massaging your feet from a tired day, calming you down when you have anxiety, rubbing your back when you have cramps, holding you when you’re down, being honest, not cheating, being respectful and etc., You won! That's also princess treatment right there.
i don't know who needs to hear this but in order to become a better person, you must first realize how horrible you really are. not in the dramatic sense, but in the quiet ways you sabotage yourself, repeat unhealthy patterns, hurt people who care about you, or tolerate what wounds you. you cannot grow if you keep pretending you’re innocent in the story you created