THIS IS GOING TO OFFEND A LOT OF NARCISSISTIC PEOPLE:
At some point, you have to stop pretending you were the victim in every story.
The truth is, you lost people who genuinely cared about you because of your own behavior. You pushed away the people who loved you, disrespected the people who tried to help you, and then blamed everyone else when the consequences caught up with you.
Instead of taking responsibility, you look for people who will validate your version of events, excuse your actions, and tell you that everyone else was the problem. But healing doesn't come from attention, sympathy, or rewriting history.
Healing comes from accountability.
It comes from admitting when you were wrong.
It comes from owning the damage you caused.
It comes from taking responsibility for the pain you inflicted on others.
But accountability requires self-reflection, and self-reflection exposes the truth. That's why narcissistic people fight so hard to avoid it.
You cannot manipulate your way into peace.
You cannot lie your way into growth.
And you cannot heal while refusing to acknowledge the harm you've caused.
Real healing begins the moment the excuses end.
@LeahRain77 I also have a lifelong condition caused by medical error. It impacts me every day in so many ways, but I look normal and barely manage to function so doctors think Im fine. I am so sorry you are living this way. I pray for strength for you
@MonicaMAlmaguer Completely inaccurate. I stopped having sex with my man because he was emotionally unstable and psychologically tortured me. He did leave me for someone else. I do miss having sex as an option. The same will happen with the next woman. We are all just fucked and miserable
Narcissists withhold closure at the end of
their relationships. They do this to punish you, assert control, and keep their options open.
You must create your own closure.
Close that damn door and never look back.
The ghost that still lives in their nervous system. They may insist they’re “over it,” but the truth is, they’ve never fully processed that loss. Their ex remains unfinished business an emotional placeholder that keeps them from being fully present with you.