Stay away from women like this they will “I’m bored” you into either something dangerous or something that mess with you financially these types of women are not a vibe they’re a liability
“Communication is key” but no one talks about how scary real communication is. It is not cute texts and long calls. It’s “here’s where you hurt me, here’s what I need, here’s what I’m afraid to say”. It’s swallowing pride, risking rejection, choosing honesty over comfort.
Erykah Badu told us to pack light and most thought it was about luggage.
She meant: stop carrying things that aren't yours.
His shame. His insecurities. His inability to see your value. None of that is yours to carry. Pack light.
You have places to go.
She had a stroke in like 2018 and he stayed and helped her with everything but he loses his leg and she dipped .. can’t make it up . Legitimately feel bad for Lavar ball
The love of your life can sometimes be the person who triggers every unhealed part of you and makes you question the entire architecture of your existence and they may not even do anything deliberately cause sometimes their mere presence begins unlocking wounds you did not even know were still alive inside you.
It can feel like a speed-run of the soul’s transformation, which is why the idea that someone dysregulating your nervous system automatically means they are not the love of your life feels incomplete to me. Sometimes dysregulation is the body encountering a depth of attachment, vulnerability, and recognition it has never learned how to hold.
But there's a difference- Love may bring pain to the surface, but it should not become a permanent theatre of disrespect, betrayal, or emotional violence.
transformation in love comes when both people are willing to stay conscious through the pain and when their values are aligned, they choose each other through difficulty, and they are both committed to becoming better instead of merely bleeding on each other.
That kind of love can cost you tremendously, it can make you confront parts of yourself you spent years avoiding. But if both people stay, repair, learn, and grow, the pain becomes the fire through which both souls are refined.
Intimacy isn't just sex. It's the mental check ins, deep conversations, date nights, forms of affirmations, the small simple things, the heart-to-hearts, staying up all night talking, sharing childhood memories, thoughts, fears, dreams and hopes for the future. It's uncontrollable laughter, direct eye contact and feeling each other without touching - it's exchanging energy.
In a relationship?
Falling out of love is normal.
Getting tired of the relationship at some point is completely normal.
Only the intentional & wise lovers come out alive.
The truth is that, not many understand that relationships have phases. It takes intentional people to go through all the phases & choose to stand firm.
There are 3 main phases:
There’s the infatuation phase (the sweetest), the reality phase (the hardest), & the adjustment phase (where you’ve made peace with all their flaws).
Only a few make it through the second phase, and the few who get to the adjustment phase have to keep adjusting & compromising till they leave this earth.
Remember, the partner you met 6 years ago will not stay the same 6 years later.
Learning & compromising are constants.
That’s the only way.
But..
If they’ve communicated and communicated and you still aren’t changing, they have every right to move how they want, though I’d suggest moving out of the relationship
You ring your partner & they fail to pick up?
They text in a spare moment to tell you whats holding them up. Eventually when they return your call, they narrate all that happened without making it seem like a question & answer situation.
Accountability in action? Always top notch.
"Babe I shouldn't have said that"
"Thats true, I made this same mistake two weeks ago, I'll work on improving"
"I hurt you & I'm sorry, lets talk about it over dinner"
Communicating anything is easy.
You ask a question? They respond, no guilt tripping or anything corny.
These are bare minimums by the way.
Lets love right!