IโM 27 AND IโM NOT ASHAMED TO ADMIT THAT!!
1) Iโve never been on a date before.
2) Iโve Never been to a club.
3) I have never been loved loudly.
4) Never had my first million.
5) I cannot swim or Drive.
6) Iโm a lover girl.
7) I donโt have an apartment yet.
8) I love my family so much.
9) Iโm not married or in a relationship.
10) Making friends is really hard for me.
11) I can cook but I donโt love cooking.
12) I cry a lotttt.
13) Iโm shy sometimes.
14) I have my emotions on my sleeves.
15) I only ask for help when Iโm about to lose my mind.
16) I really want to be the face of big brands.
17) Iโm such a talkertive.
18) I love to be in front of the camera
19) I want to be a model but itโs all in my head.
20) I want to be a dancer but I havenโt explored that yet.
21) I want to learn how to sew just to be able to make clothes for myself.
22) I feel like I should be doing better but I mostly think Iโm stuck.
23) I donโt have life figured out yet, but I strongly believe in Gods timing๐๐พโค๏ธ.
IโM 23 AND IโM NOT ASHAMED TO ADMIT THAT!!
1. Iโve never had my own 200k.
2. I ask my mum for help sometimes.
3. I donโt have a job.
4. Iโve never had a girlfriend.
5. Iโm broke.
6. Iโm losing it.
7. Iโve never been to a cinema.
8. I canโt drive.
โIโm ashamedโ
My conspiracy theory is that the next generation of African food brands will not come from inventing new products, they will come from intentionally branding foods that already carry cultural power before someone outside the culture does it first.
Matcha, Kimchi, Kombucha, Aรงaรญ became global because someone built brands around them.
Which tells us that Africa's next iconic food brands are probably already in our markets, kitchens, and street corners.
This is free advice from an expensive psychologist.
If you're an anxious person, do everything for fun. Go to a job interview for fun. Submit documents for fun. Start a blog for fun. Anxiety feeds on importance. Don't make everything a matter of life and death.
Many people who think like this are simply young and have lots of friends.
So their need for love and attention is getting filled by their friends.
At 22/23, you can have a friend group of 6-10 friends that are very close, with shared identities, and you all are very tight.
Fast forward 5-7 years, and almost all of them have gotten married and had kids, so they don't have your time again like that.
You find yourself having to make new friends over and over, only to "lose" them to marriage, work, japa and so on.
You will not realize it, but when something good or bad happens, you call your friend that you used to call and talk for hours to gist them, but they don't pick.
They reply with a text about how they are trying to out their baby to sleep, or they are spending quality time with their significant other.
And you drop the phone and realize that you are alone. You have lots of friends, but nobody to call yours.
So you post it on your status and pretend you're happy about it.
But the next time someone asks for your number, a guy that looks good, you hesitate, and you give it.
You ignore his chats as you always do, but then he asks you out for lunch or dinner and you ask yourself, "another solo dinner at home watching a show you can't even remember half of what they said, or a night of conversation with someone that you don't hate."
So you accept.
And slowly, you shall sharing your life with them. Your rants. Your random funny moments, a page from your favorite book.
And you begin to enjoy that closeness again.
Eventually, as you begin to enjoy having your own person, having someone with whom you don't have to share attention, someone that prioritizes you.
You realize that in exchange for that attention, you will also need to give them exclusive attention. You will need to adjust certain parts of your life for them to fit in and be comfortable.
It will not be obvious at first, but you find yourself learning what he likes just because you like what his face looks like when you suprise him.
You start learning what club he likes so you can send him memes when they lose. You learn what foods he likes and learn to cook it, for no other reason than watch him eat it with a smile on his face.
You don't realize it, but one day, you look up, and realize that you don't want to do life without them.
You suddenly realize that you want a life with them. And you suddenly begin to consider, "but marriage isn't that bad"
And finally, at 32 or 33, you look back at your 22 year old self and laugh at your naivety.
What you wanted, love, acceptance, and intimacy, always laid in the arms of someone that you can call yours.
So when people make blanket statements like this, often they are not being dishonest, they are simply speaking from where they are in life currently.
But loneliness is a powerful thing. And everyone will eventually seek out their mate.