The character you seem to have been born with is not necessarily who you are. Beyond the character you have inherited, your parents, your friends, and your peers have helped to shape your personality.
Understand this: The world wants to assign you a role in life. And once you accept that role you are doomed. Your power is limited to the tiny amount allotted to the role you have selected or have been forced to assume.
@NoFilterSkin Dress according to your body type, always get your hair done. You don’t have to wear expensive wigs, braids or even a simple natural ponytail slaps. Always look put together. Always dress as if you’re gonna bump into your ex.
Can I ask you men a question?
If you meet a woman who clearly has a lifestyle she enjoys, she dresses well, takes care of herself, loves going out, traveling, trying new things, making memories, why do you pursue her just to bring absolutely none of that energy into her life? why come in talking about, "Well I wanna see you, but I don't really like to go out like that, and then immediately start trying to shrink her into your comfort zone.
Why?
If you're not a man who enjoys dates, experiences, or putting in effort to make woman feel special, then go find someone whose idea of quality time is sitting in silence and staring at the wall.
Because that woman-the one out there living, laughing, glowing-is not for you.
And no, that doesn't mean spending money recklessly, it means showing up in ways that enhance her life, not dim it.