ANY WOMAN WHO GETS STAINED ON HER PERIOD IS STUPID, ARE YOU A BABY?
The other day, i shared a boda with a lady going to town, i didn’t know her coz I boarded from the Bank of Uganda stage heading to Kireka
when we reached Banda, she was getting off, the boda guy parked well to the side, i got off first, but I noticed my trousers were slightly wet when the lady stepped down, she had badly stained herself
u could see the panic on her face, i quickly removed my sweater & gave it to her so she could wrap it around her waist, i took out my handkerchief & wiped the boda seat
before anyone could notice much, the lady quickly disappeared, i never saw which side she took, after she left, the boda rider said a statement I will never forget
“Any woman who gets stained on her period is stupid, Are you a baby?
meanwhile the other boda riders nearby were nodding their heads like professors in a subject they have never studied
the rider even went ahead & said the lady had cursed his day coz such a thing had never happened on his boda
i told him something he probably had never heard before, women’s bodies are different, hormones are different, some women bleed heavily & have to change pads many times a day, others may not bleed as much, some women faint during their periods, some get severe cramps & even get admitted to hospital, others manage to go through the day like everything is normal, periods are not something a woman can switch on & off like the new Umeme, it is a moment when women actually need more support, not insults
i have also even seen men host ladies in their homes & when the lady starts her period, the man begins complaining
“why did she come when she knew she was almost in her days?” I feel disgusted
but wat many men don’t understand is that the menstrual cycle can change suddenly, it’s not something women fully control, just like our ceremonial government ministers
so instead of shaming women, we should understand them, i felt I should use this Women’s Day to create a little awareness among men about the menstrual cycle
Sometimes wat a woman needs in that moment is not judgment, It is simply understanding
Happy Women’s Day ❤️❤️🫶🏿
In 2018, a young man in Lagos lost his job.
He hid it from his family for 4 months.
Every morning, he still dressed up, carried his laptop bag, and left the house like he was going to work. Instead, he sat in a small buka in Yaba, applying for jobs with free Wi-Fi.
One day, his father called him aside.
“I know you lost your job,” the old man said quietly.
The young man froze.
“I didn’t want to shame you,” his father continued. “A man already feels small when he can’t provide.”
Then his father brought out ₦20,000 — his last savings from his pension.
“Use this to hold yourself. Don’t tell your mother.”
The young man cried that night.
Not because of the money.
But because his father — who had arthritis and rising medical bills — was still trying to protect his pride.
Two months later, the young man got a better job.
Today, he pays all his father’s medical bills.
He says the ₦20,000 wasn’t money.
It was a belief.
And belief changed everything.
What’s the smallest thing someone has done for you that meant the most?