It's so selfish to enter someone's life, see that they're a loving, cheerful, and good person, and decide to ruin their peace because you haven't dealt with your own issues. Leave people alone if you have no intention of showing up with sincerity.
My therapist once said "growth is realizing that someone's inconsistency is a sign to step back, not a challenge to prove your worth" and i think y'all need to engrave this into your soul.