Alex Clark

Reader, writer, talker. Co-host of The Graham Norton Book Club. Patron of the Cambridge Literary Festival. Board member St Patrick’s Centre.

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Reading the thousands of tributes to my beloved husband Danny Kelly has brought light into the darkest day. His family and I are profoundly grateful for each one. He was just remarkable, and I was the luckiest woman to have had him for so long ♥️

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We are heartbroken to share that our much-loved friend and colleague Danny Kelly has died, aged 69.

A cherished part of talkSPORT for so many years, Danny brought extraordinary wit, warmth and knowledge to our airwaves. His passion for football, music and life was infectious, and his kindness touched everyone around him.

“I love football, Stan. I love it.”

We loved you, Danny. We’ll miss you dearly.

Our thoughts are with Danny’s family, friends and everyone who loved listening to him.

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@HMRCcustomers Thanks so much for your help, Martin

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@HMRCcustomers Hi there: I just spent 45 mins on hold for an adviser - finally got through, began conversation, phone disconnected 2 mins in. Line now closed. Can you help me?

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@HMRCcustomers PS by registered and tracked post.

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@HMRCcustomers Mid-December 2025 - at soonest possible opportunity, with the 60-day deadline in mind.

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@HMRCcustomers Yes - I need a reference number to pay CGT. Have submitted all the paperwork but haven’t had a response but now deadline looms. Have been told not to pay via normal self-assessment.

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@MsAshtonDennis Yes please!

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Amid the grim* music at Dublin Airport comes Wah’s Story of the Blues. I’ve gone from Loudermilk to weepy nostalgia

*not to my taste **
**or any reasonable person’s

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@thatkirstylang @BBCSounds (Then again, they’ve cancelled most of those)

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@thatkirstylang @BBCSounds It really, really is. (Plus the galling prospect of not being able to listen to programmes I’m actually on.)

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@afneil Where I am sure you had security arrangements, and were not a pregnant woman seeking to access legal healthcare. As you say, all freedoms require balance, but you seem unwilling to acknowledge the realities of intimidation and coercion here.

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What a Monday morning manifesto from the ever eloquent Hanif, even if the squares among us need to punk before they can re-punk 🙏

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Last night, Isabella was reading to me from the newspaper. Listening to her, while thinking of other things, I suddenly said, “What do you think we would be doing now, you and I, if this accident hadn’t happened?”

Her face changed. With some distress, she said, “We can’t go there. It is not fair to indulge in that kind of thinking. The comparison would kill us.”

But I thought: who doesn’t imagine another life, a better one, running parallel to their own; an ideal other world, which feeds us emotionally, sexually, intellectually?

The Buddhist idea of living in the so-called present is impossible and against reality because our lives are built around a necessarily imagined future. We are constantly in dialogue with this phantasised world; an ongoing conversation about our jobs, creative pursuits, sex, our partners, or money. We negotiate and argue with it, building it up and adding details.

To be motivated, there must be an imaginary, a store of images that nurture our desire, allowing us to construct cities, space stations, and write novels. The immigrant experience, for instance, is centred around desire: a better world is possible.

But in other circumstances, this alternative world could be used as a stick to beat yourself with; the further away you get from your ideal, the more punishing the phantasy becomes. It’s the “I could have been a contender” syndrome. Failure can be an act of rebellion—pathologised, indulged, and even enjoyed.

Online shopping creates a phantasy space. When making a purchase, we are plunged into an ecstatic waiting period where our desire for the object increases. We order a jumper and believe it will substantially improve our lives. And we know how it feels when it does arrive: some pleasure but not the whole-body anticipatory orgasm of the wait.

The only solution is to keep buying. This anticipatory feeling is a useful engine. But being consumed or addicted to shallow forms of desire—narrowing the range of what you are interested in—will block a more nurturing and sustaining phantasy.

The essential question is: how do we keep our desire alive? What keeps us moving?

At the end of the 1920s, Freud’s colleague and biographer Ernest Jones developed a theory called aphanisis, which is concerned with the extinction of sexual desire and with the question of what happens to us—as in depression—when we can no longer demand anything. What he implies is that to remain alive, we have to want and make demands of ourselves and others. Demand is the currency of social intercourse.

When I was young in the ’60s, we were enveloped in an enervating boredom: sitting in your tiny living room with your grandparents in front of a coal fire, watching a gloomy Dickens adaptation on a tiny black-and-white television. There was little to want until pop opened our world. Now, we must create opportunities for reflection and ennui—there is too much to want—and we need space where new aspirations can arise.

In Britain, desire is dead. Austerity and a lack of industry have destroyed our enterprising culture. There are pockets of ambition—individuals empowered by new technologies—but we lack a story or sense of direction that must come from the state working in collaboration with private inventiveness. Our country is sick, impoverished, and mentally ill.

As is America. Still, they have a president in Trump who, in many ways, desires too much. This is what is beguiling about him. René Girard, the French sociologist, argues that desire is mimetic: we envy others’ excitement and want it for ourselves. What liberal commentators usually miss about Trump is how contagious his activity is. This is what populist leaders do; they tickle your libido, promising anything without accountability, and have you believe in an exciting future.

“What would we be doing now, you and I, if this accident hadn’t happened?”

This thought isn’t serving me. As Isabella said, it takes us nowhere. You must learn to give up or suppress certain phantasies in order to make space for new, more realistic ones.

I’ve been wanting to get my left ear pierced since my accident. When I was seventeen, I had it done for the first time. I remember my dad having a fit as I looked at myself in the bathroom mirror while he railed at me, asking if I had become homosexual. People were nervous in those days that the genders were fusing.

Anyway, this weekend I decided to get it re-pierced. So Isabella and I, on our way to Sachin’s for lunch, decided to hit Westfield, where I received a small diamond stud that pleased the children and gave everyone a good laugh. Next, I will be getting a tattoo, possibly on my hands or my neck. My repunking is an onward project.

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@DublinAirport Genuinely: not have passengers going through T2 security only to tramp all the way to T1; improve quality and cost of food & drink; offer parking price concessions to those of us in the rural SE who have no public transport routes to the airport. Small wishlist!

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My interview with the marvellous Richard Flanagan

‘I fly, I drive. We’re all complicit’: Richard Flanagan on vanishing species and refusing the Baillie Gifford prize money https://t.co/D2eWqWmcKA

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@GeorgeMonbiot (I’d also mention that the front row of the Richard Powers event was made up of PhD students working on his novels!)

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@GeorgeMonbiot I would argue that there’s room for all. But not to mention the contemporary literature that is attending to the emergency seems unfair.

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Despite what Keith says, interesting and original pieces on the great Gary Indiana, who should be so much more widely read than he is.

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@LissaKEvans I’m going to suggest tanticular, but that may already mean something else!

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@GailMyerscough I’m so sorry to read this - all love and strength to you xx