When you've been in a sociopathic relationship, songs/smells/places anything that's reminiscent of that old situation can convince the body it's in danger again. PTSD from these relationships are very real.
Ladies, wake the fuck up, they are terrified of us. Do you not realize how powerful you are if you knew it? If not, why are so many systems created to destroy our innate intelligence and intuition.
A side effect of childhood trauma is in healing and reaching for everyone to fix you. You’re trying to find someone to help heal that survival wound and lack of safety. Everyone you’re supposed to trust to make you better. Medical gaslighting is real. Spiritual bypassing is real. What happens to the person who finds no safety there. They shut down in shame thinking they’re not good enough. We need to be out here helping our clients take their power back and help them remember their tools of healing are within them. Teaching them how to help themselves and create safety and trust of THEM. YOU ARE YOUR OWN HEALER. Your body knows and wants to heal.
Self-Reiki !
Self-Reiki can provide a sense of safety while emotions are surfacing. Talking to the organ and area like a little sister youre trying to help is key.
-Liver area (right rib cage) for frustration and anger.
-Heart center for emotional overwhelm. (CV middle of boobs gently rubbing up and down)
-Lower abdomen for bladder and kidneys, fear and terror. You are the safe one now.
-Kidneys for fear, having your own back and depletion.
Rather than trying to stop or demonize emotions, self-Reiki can be used as a practice of witnessing them with compassion. The goal is not suppression its allowing the body to feel safe enough to release what it has been holding onto all these years.
Homeopathy and Emotional Release!
As you take remedy-
-Keep a journal.
-Tracking dreams and emotional shifts.
-Practicing self-observation without judgment.
-Allowing emotions to move through rather than immediately suppressing them.
-Connect resurfaced symptom or emotion to when you first remember it. Talk to that version.
The intention is not to force but to create enough support that the body can process what is ready to be released.
Grounding!
As heat rises, many people become mentally overstimulated, anxious, or emotionally overwhelmed. Grounding helps pull excess energy downward.
Grounding practices may include:
-Barefoot contact with the earth.
-Sitting against a tree.
-Slow mindful walking.
-Breathe in through nose and feel an exhale leave your lower feet as you breathe out.
-Breathing into the lower abdomen (Lower Dantian).
-Bringing awareness to the feet and legs.
In TCM grounding helps anchor Yang energy and prevents excess heat from continually rising into the head, heart, and nervous system. Its teaches your body you dont have to go from 0-100 to hear what its saying.
QiGOng!
Qigong can help move stagnant Liver Qi so the body does not have to express that pressure solely through symptoms.
-Gentle twisting movements to unwind the rib cage where Liver Qi often becomes constrained.
-Shaking exercises to release accumulated stress and adrenaline.
-Walking in nature to harmonize the Wood element. Make “SHHHHH” noise
-Stretching the sides of the body along the Liver and Gallbladder meridians.
-Slow breathing practices that encourage Qi to descend rather than rise as heat.
Movement gives the body a safe way to express energy that has been stuck in freeze.
The goal is not treat heat like your enemy. Heat is not your enemy. Your body is not your enemy. Repressed fire and the society who perpetuates it is your enemy. The goal is to help the heat move constructively through honest emotional processing and self reconnection with your body and all versions that were split. Healing looks like unhinged hell fire… Stop shaming and judging.
-Crying after years of not crying.
-Feeling anger after years of compliance.
-Increased body heat, MCAs, Histamine, Psoriasis, Eczema etc
-Feeling the want to seek revenge on everyone thats hurt you. ( yes this is normal stop calling it toxic you grifters)
Rage is your fierce powerful protector.
In TCM:
-Healthy anger moves Qi.
-Suppressed anger stagnates Qi.
-Long-term stagnation creates Heat.
-Heat rises, demanding expression one way or another.
When Liver Heat emerges during healing, people may suddenly:
-Stop tolerating behavior they previously accepted.
-Feel anger toward past mistreatment.
-Become aware of where they abandoned themselves to survive.
-Demand autonomy and become no longer ok with submissive fawning (no shame in that we’ve all done it and its a brilliant survival)
-Feel protective of their energy for the first time.
-Crying after years of not crying.
-Becoming aware of unhealthy relationships.
-Increased stamina.
-Learning to say "no" without guilt.
-Feeling your life force returning.
Thawing symptoms
-Tight diaphragm at night, labored breathing associated with a face flush. Histamine is a tell tale sign.
-Hot flashes or sudden waves of heat
-Night sweats
-Feeling wired but tired
-Irritability and frustration
-Increased emotional sensitivity
-Vivd dreams
-Red face or flushed cheeks
-Dry mouth or thirst
-Skin rashes or itching
-Headaches or migraines
-Heart palpitations
-Restlessness or difficulty sleeping
-Feeling unexpectedly angry or snappy
In TCM, freeze is often associated with stagnation and unprocessed fear. Heat is not the enemy. Heat appears because the body is finally finding enough energy and safety to see what’s been suppressed for years. When someone has lived in functional freeze, chronic fear, people-pleasing, emotional suppression, or survival mode, the body often becomes cold, stagnant, and deficient. As healing begins, heat can emerge as the body's attempt to thaw what has been locked away.
Childhood humiliation rituals cause a child to freeze and break off. Humiliation, particularly when it targets a person’s sense of self, can be particularly powerful. A child repeatedly shamed, mocked, invalidated, or punished for expressing emotions might learn that freezing in invisibility is safer. There’s a deep disconnect from what you actually feel with a deep need to hide it and pretend something else.
Functional freeze often begins when a child experiences situations that overwhelm their ability to have safety. This can include emotional abuse, chronic criticism, humiliation, neglect, childhood sexual abuse, family dysfunction, bullying, or living in an environment where expressing emotions had punishment. When escape is not possible, the nervous system adapts through freeze a survival response designed to protect the child. You also can be born into it epigenetically by the women in your bloodline.
The rage and fire that come up during healing are the body's attempt to protect itself. This is your life force returning home after years of suppression. How many fucking people banked on this? How many times have you been shamed for being wrong when you were always right? This is your body showing you it’s still alive and ready to fight. So many symptoms are marked as something else when it’s your body screaming to let it out.
They stopped burning the witch when they realized freezing her was more effective. Numb her intuition. Suppress her rage. Stop her fight, Doubt her intelligence. Repress her emotions. Label her too sensitive. Make her a perfect fightless body. A frozen woman never fights back. Medicalize heat that would help them get autonomy back. They knew feminine rage and heat would end these cycles, thats why they’re never truly seen for what they are…
I cannot begin to tell you all the women that are clients or in my emails or dms telling me the info I speak about has changed their life. When I was young and in pure terror and suffering of feeling everything in everyone and myself I never would’ve thought we’d be here. After my near death experience I didn’t understand why. The endless abuse. I didn’t get it. But we are. Little Alex and her truth honors yours. My truth I share is because I genuinely give a shit and I’m clearly here to make things change. The truth I share is so you may feel a semblance of resonance and get your power back. Forever, I am true. I have never sold my soul. I love you. Let’s save women’s lives and honor those who lost it in mysterious illness from trauma and abuse.
When you count back how many times you suffered in silence for approval or not to be seen, there’s a raging fire inside you screaming to be heard. Every time you submitted to not be left, attacked or abandoned. Your rage is safe here. Every little version of you who you mourn for, she’s not left you, she’s screaming your fight song. Honor her, talk to her, SCREAM FOR HER.
Let’s get angry for those who gaslit our knowing. Those who used anger and drama as a tool. Pivot away from the male acceptance. They should be scared. This is the largest scale in history of women taking the power back.
I wish all women understood that feeling they feel in their entire being was rage that could break every fucking wall if they trusted themselves. The power of women is a billion dollar industry to keep the power down. I say this for every woman following me, I give a shit, let’s be the revolution they wanted to stop from happening.