Nigerians don’t want to understand that children can have negative emotions. Yes, your child can be angry with you. Happy and obedient are not the only two emotions children are allowed to have.
Every elite team is built through elimination. Seals. Pro teams. It’s who isn’t in the room. Your worst person is your acceptable standard. You literally accept them. So that is your minimum. You raise the bar from the bottom not by expanding the top.