The lesson was never how to become worthy of deep love. The lesson was learning to walk away from anything that required me to prove I was. Real love will meet me with consistency, reciprocity, and the kind of emotional safety that never asks me to abandon myself to keep it.
I have survived enough to know I am formidable. I have loved enough to know I am tender. I have lost enough to know I am free. Now let me see what I can become with all three.
If you're someone who likes depth. You're more prone to attracting avoidants. They'll bring intellect & at first it'll feel like you're compatible. Until you realise you're engaging with a mind but the heart is in lockdown. Remember one sees you. The other just studies you.
Some people don't become private because they have secrets. They become private because too many conversations ended with them feeling misunderstood and unprotected.