Amber Bloom

I've been through it so you don't have to. Toxic relationship expert. Empath/Hsp . Rebirthed.

[Amber Bloom @AmberBloom1111]

And for my final act of love, I became unavailable to everything that dimmed my light.

[Amber Bloom @AmberBloom1111]

And for my final act of love, I stopped waiting for the apology that was never coming.

[Amber Bloom @AmberBloom1111]

For my final act of love, I buried the version of me who tolerated you.

[Amber Bloom @AmberBloom1111]

For my final act of love, I let you live with the lies you told about me.

[Amber Bloom @AmberBloom1111]

And for my final act of love, I stopped explaining basic empathy.

[Amber Bloom @AmberBloom1111]

And for my final act of love, I stopped grieving who he was and started grieving who I became around him.

[Amber Bloom @AmberBloom1111]

And for my final act of love, I stopped explaining my pain to someone who enjoyed causing it.

[Amber Bloom @AmberBloom1111]

I don’t know who needs to hear this but that break up actually saved you.
If it didn’t happen, you’d still be stuck in that same miserable cycle and although it might hurt right now…
Your future self is smiling. ❤️

[Amber Bloom @AmberBloom1111]

Nobody gets angrier than a narcissist being accused of something they most definitely did.

[Amber Bloom @AmberBloom1111]

The answer to having your boundaries disrespected is not to fight.
It's distance.

[Amber Bloom @AmberBloom1111]

A narcissist will always have someone they accuse of ruining their life. It is invariably the same person the narcissist is trying to destroy.

[Amber Bloom @AmberBloom1111]

At this age, I'm no longer explaining basic principles of respect and loyalty.
Either you show me you already know, or I'm falling back, there is no in between.

[Amber Bloom @AmberBloom1111]

Cutting hurtful people off and letting them live with whatever delusional story suits them best is top tier self-care.

[Amber Bloom @AmberBloom1111]

The problem is that I HEAR what you’re SAYING, but I SEE how you’re ACTING

[Amber Bloom @AmberBloom1111]

When you’re dealing with a narcissist, you are not dealing with someone who is trying to overcome their demons.

You are dealing with someone who is committed to concealing them.

[Amber Bloom @AmberBloom1111]

You are not lazy, unmotivated, or stuck. after years of living your life in survival mode, you are exhausted.
There is a difference.

[Amber Bloom @AmberBloom1111]

Yes, the narcissist knows what they do is wrong. How can you tell? They know exactly who they shouldn’t act out around and where to control their behaviour. They wear their mask in public but reveal their true selves to you, in private.

[Amber Bloom @AmberBloom1111]

Nobody gets more upset than a narcissist being accused of exactly what they did.

[Amber Bloom @AmberBloom1111]

Don’t believe everything you’re told about someone, you might be hearing it from the problem itself.

[Amber Bloom @AmberBloom1111]

Narcissists expect you to give them your everything and make them your everything while they give you NOTHING (but trauma, unmet needs & sadness)