@Galaxibrain@SupernovaMomma@prntgdcolonized It’s both, though. It hurts the pleaser because they can’t get what they genuinely want, and it hurts the friend/partner because they’re being lied to.
@knitgrrl I don’t think even the President of the United States would be allowed to keep a dog that had bitten humans ten times. That’s some high-level nonsense right there.
@jelenawoehr I feel like “support person” is curb cut advice - check in with each other! Make sure everyone is hydrating, resting, taking cooling breaks. If “taking care of yourself” is the standard, everyone does better & vulnerable folks don’t feel bad for doing it too.
@SimonWDC Cynical me thinks native-born kids are ALSO going to miss high school and fill these jobs - eliminate reproductive health care and the result will be lots of poor BIPOC kids with desperate families. Increase the population, reduce the social safety net, profit.
@tuckwoodstock That’s actually an amazing idea; also it probably can add filler for NTs to skip so hopefully they’ll read the relevant bits? I have discovered that if you just say things that need to be said they won’t read them all.
I’ve worked really hard learning to listen to my body and rest when I need to. It’s a work in progress and I’m mostly fine with being some kind of disabled. But it’s so hard running into my limits when I really WANT to do the thing and I can’t. Especially for my kiddo.
@adhd_beans Start small. For me, it helps to find a workbook or something similar to use as a launching pad. Also, try a new hobby! You can totally weaponize your ADHD with novelty.
@RottenInDenmark The whole thing says much more about her than it does about anything else. Nobody made you go to the falcon hospital, Agnes. “I went to France” is part of a conversation during which you talk about what you did there (besides walk & stare at French people like a creeper).
Checked FAT TALK out of the library. This book makes me want to highlight and notate the margins in a way I haven’t felt since college. Also I want to buy copies for all my parent friends. @v_solesmith I have so many feels.