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@AdaAkokwa1 You have the wrong mentality towards marriage. It shouldn't be about what I'll gain or what will change for me, but about what we can achieve together.
When your mindset shifts from βWhat will I gain from this man?β to βWhat can I do for him, and how can we build something
I don't want to own a house -- but if my partner wants to, all the power to them. I like decorating ππ If I'm living there too well of course I'll contribute to bills.
Shared responsibility and talking about this before the relationship begins is so important.
THIS THE FCKIN TEA BABY ππ People act so shocked when I say I have no interest in marriage.
If we're together, were building skills togetherrrrrrr!!!
A man once told me I was the perfect woman to marry because I could take care of myself. Apparently, my ability to survive without a man was one of the reasons he wanted to become my husband.
We were talking one evening when he said, βI like that you are hardworking. You know how to take care of yourself.β
I smiled. βThank you.β
Then he added, βThat means I wonβt have too much responsibility when we get married. You can handle yourself, and we can share the bills.β
I asked him, βSo what changes for me when I get married?β
He looked confused.
I continued, βIβm already working, paying my bills, and taking care of myself. If I marry you and still do all of that, what exactly are we building together?β
He said, βMarriage is a partnership. Both people should contribute.β
I agreed. Of course, both people should contribute. But I wanted to know whether he saw marriage as two people supporting each other or simply two people managing their own lives under one roof.
My people, sometimes a man sees a hardworking woman and thinks, βGood, this one wonβt be a burden.β
But has anybody asked what that woman is hoping to gain from marriage? She is already carrying her own responsibilities. She also wants someone she can lean on.
I donβt mind working hard. I just donβt want to get married and discover that my only reward is more responsibilities.
Ladies, would you marry a man who expects you to carry on exactly as you did when you were single, while calling it partnership?
A man once told me I was the perfect woman to marry because I could take care of myself. Apparently, my ability to survive without a man was one of the reasons he wanted to become my husband.
We were talking one evening when he said, βI like that you are hardworking. You know how to take care of yourself.β
I smiled. βThank you.β
Then he added, βThat means I wonβt have too much responsibility when we get married. You can handle yourself, and we can share the bills.β
I asked him, βSo what changes for me when I get married?β
He looked confused.
I continued, βIβm already working, paying my bills, and taking care of myself. If I marry you and still do all of that, what exactly are we building together?β
He said, βMarriage is a partnership. Both people should contribute.β
I agreed. Of course, both people should contribute. But I wanted to know whether he saw marriage as two people supporting each other or simply two people managing their own lives under one roof.
My people, sometimes a man sees a hardworking woman and thinks, βGood, this one wonβt be a burden.β
But has anybody asked what that woman is hoping to gain from marriage? She is already carrying her own responsibilities. She also wants someone she can lean on.
I donβt mind working hard. I just donβt want to get married and discover that my only reward is more responsibilities.
Ladies, would you marry a man who expects you to carry on exactly as you did when you were single, while calling it partnership?
To the subs who have been made to feel that they need to earn kindness through constant giving:
You are a human before you are a submissive.
Your worth is not measured by how much you give, how much you endure, or how perfectly you meet someone else's expectations.
Maybe an unpopular opinion but I don't think it's a flex to say you can CHOOSE to be narcissist when you need to be, all bc u were raised by narcissists.
Baby you've only turned yourself into a self aware narcissist? Nothing good can come from that πππ«ΆπΌ
Just ignore them π
@DiaryyOfCatt A man with $20 and a plan can outshine a man with $2,000 and no imagination. Some of yβall arenβt broke, youβre just lazy with confidence.
Some men really think every woman expects five-star dates and a millionaire budget. π Sir, some of us just want INITIATIVE, EFFORT, and a man who can make a $20 date feel special! A picnic, ice cream, bowling, or a scenic drive. We donβt need you rich, we need you to TRY! Some of yβall arenβt broke in the wallet, youβre broke in initiative! ππ π½