You may not have the money, status, or assets yet, but never let your self-respect depend on someone else’s validation.
Build your value, maintain your standards, and stay disciplined enough not to compromise them when success finally arrives
@lawrencekitema People love saying money isn't everything until the rent is due, the bills pile up, or someone you love needs help. A poor man learns very early that principles are respected more when they're backed by options.
@viktorbensonyt She wasn't suddenly looking for something serious. She just finally met someone she couldn't afford to play games with. People call it maturity when the stakes become real.
@perkmaybe The people who know you usually remember who you were. Strangers only care about the value in front of them. That's why your biggest opportunity often comes from someone who has never met the old version of you.
There’s a lot of talk about women sexualizing themselves to get validation from men but the obsession with gendered marriage rituals such as getting proposed to and changing one’s name are also a form of validation seeking behavior that marriage is an achievement for women, but not for men.
@iam_biglad1 People pretend validation only counts when it's obvious. One person posts thirst traps. Another dreams about a proposal, a ring, and a new surname. Different packaging, same desire to have your value publicly confirmed by other people.
@itz_taser The question isn't whether she's sleeping with one man. The question is why people assume financial struggle automatically predicts someone's character. Some people are loyal with options. Others aren't loyal with none.
@lawrencekitema One of the most expensive mistakes people make is assuming others share their values. Your kindness, loyalty, and honesty are your standards, not a contract that forces anyone else to behave the same way.
The reason why we will continue to recieve poor services from airlines, telecoms, electricity discos and the rest in Nigeria is because we can’t sue companies for damages and win. So they operate anyhow with no consequences
@Ozedikus The problem isn't just poor service. It's the absence of consequences. When customers have no realistic path to compensation, apologies become cheaper than fixing the problem. Companies improve fastest when poor service becomes expensive.
a man sent me for an inter-state errand with his car warning me not to help any stranger on the way, reason been he once helped a police man who left bullet shells in his car, luckily he stopped to buy something after he dropped off & found it & dispose everything, the next check point he was searched thoroughly like they knew exactly what they where looking for & their faces changed when they couldn't find anything, since then the idea of helping strangers died off.
@spectreNBA One bad experience can permanently change how someone sees the world. What looked like paranoia to me at first started sounding like expensive wisdom. Some people stop helping strangers because they're wicked. Others stop because they learned the risk firsthand.
There is something beautiful about being able to afford the things you once considered luxuries. The perfume, the outfit, the good food…..the little extras that make life sweeter.