My boyfriend of four years got a job offer in Canada and we were ecstatic about the news.
For six months, I was the one running around helping him process his transcripts, doing midnight prayers, and even lending him ₦10 million to complete his proof of funds from my business account and a loan I collected for this journey.
We agreed I would join him next year. The night before his flight, we had a quiet dinner at a restaurant he was looking at me with so much emotion.
He held my hands, cleared his throat, and said, "Babe, you are the best woman a man could ask for. But I want us to be very honest with ourselves so we don't hurt each other."
My mind immediately went into defense mode.He went on to say that long-distance relationships rarely work in Canada due to the weather and stress. He suggested that we should do an "open relationship" while he is away.
He said if he finds someone there to help him get his permanent residency faster through marriage, I shouldn't be angry, because it's just "strategic survival," and he will still be sending me money.
I sat there looking at this man wearing the designer shirt I bought him for his birthday. I didn't make a scene or panic in the restaurant.
I just smiled, stood up to use the restroom, I took his phone with me since I knew the password to his phone. I opened his banking app, transferred my ₦10 million back to my account with the description "Strategic Survival Fund," deleted the messages alert and returned to my sit.
I went to my settings and played my phone ringtone to make it look like a call came in and it was urgent, that was how I walked out of the restaurant, entered a Bolt, and blocked him everywhere.
Let him go and survive the Canada cold with clean slate and zero balance, open relationship my foot.
🔥HOW TO HEAR FROM GOD
1. Start Your Day With Prayer Before Anything
One of the best ways to hear from God is to seek Him before the noise of the day begins. Before checking your phone, social media, or messages, spend time talking to God. A quiet heart is often more sensitive to His voice and direction.
2. Read God's Word Daily
God primarily speaks through His Word. Many people want to hear God's voice while neglecting the Bible. The more consistently you read and meditate on Scripture, the easier it becomes to recognize God's guidance and truth.
3. Create a Quiet Environment
Distractions can make it difficult to focus spiritually. Set aside a few moments each morning in a peaceful place where you can pray, reflect, and listen. God often speaks when your mind is calm and attentive.
4. Ask God Specific Questions
Do not make prayer a one-sided conversation. Present your concerns, decisions, and desires to God, then take time to listen. Ask Him for wisdom, direction, and understanding concerning your life and future.
5. Keep a Journal of What God Places on Your Heart
Sometimes God speaks through impressions, scriptures, convictions, or thoughts that align with His Word. Writing them down helps you remember, reflect, and recognize patterns of God's guidance over time.
6. Obey What God Has Already Shown You
Many people seek new direction while ignoring previous instructions. Obedience increases spiritual sensitivity. When you act on what God has already revealed, you become more receptive to further guidance.
God is still speaking today, but hearing Him requires a heart that is willing to seek, listen, and obey. Do not expect every answer to come through dramatic signs or extraordinary experiences. Often, God speaks through His Word, gentle conviction, quiet direction, and daily fellowship. If you make God's presence your priority every morning, you