Buddha was not a buddhist, Jesus was not a christian, Lao Tzu was not a taoist.
They were teachers of love and harmony, love was their religion, beyond labels, borders or beliefs.
-Zen Teaching
The deepest form of slavery is the hunger to be understood by others.
Why?
Because the moment your peace depends on someone else's understanding, you hand them power over your inner life.
Think about it.
Someone misunderstands you.
You explain.
They still don't understand.
So you explain again.
Then you replay the conversation in your head for hours.
Why does another person's opinion have such power over you?
Because part of your identity is trapped in their perception of you.
Human beings can either allow external influences to determine their thinking and actions, or gradually develop the capacity to think and act freely.
Most people unknowingly build themselves through the eyes of others.
They ask:
"Do they approve of me?"
"Do they recognize my intentions?"
"Do they understand who I really am?"
And when the answer is no, they suffer.
Praise lifts them.
Criticism wounds them.
Misunderstanding consumes them.
Their inner state rises and falls with other people's opinions.
That is not freedom.
Freedom begins when you learn to think and act from your own inner convictions, rather than being guided by the judgments of others.
This does not mean rejecting other people.
The freer you become inwardly, the more genuinely you can encounter another human being.
There is also a hidden trap:
The desire to be understood is often a disguised desire to be admired.
We say:
"I want people to understand me."
But what we often mean is:
"I want people to recognize my worth."
And so we become prisoners of an image we are trying to create in their minds.
Learn to observe yourself.
Learn to distinguish truth from the desire for approval.
Learn to stand inwardly firm without becoming cold toward the world.
You can be criticized without collapsing.
Praised without becoming dependent.
You can love people without demanding that they fully comprehend you.
And perhaps most importantly:
You can continue doing what you recognize as right, even when nobody understands why.
Your task is not to control how others perceive you.
Your task is to become who you truly are.
When that happens, being understood becomes a gift.
Not a necessity.
You have projected onto yourself a world of your own imagination based on memories, desires and fears, and you have imprisoned yourself in it. Break the spell and be free.
~ Nisargadatta Maharaj
“By three methods we may learn wisdom: First, by reflection, which is noblest; Second, by imitation, which is easiest; and third by experience, which is the bitterest.”
― Confucius
Artist: Christian Schloe
Babaji says: "It is easy in the world, to live after the world's opinion; it is easy in solitude to live after our own, but the great man is he who in the midst of the crowd keeps up perfect sweetness and independence of solitude."
Aum Namaha Babaji Maha-Vallabha!