Reminders for narcissistic abuse survivors-
➡️ It was abuse
➡️They won’t change
➡️ It really was that bad
➡️ You did all you could to fix it
➡️ You aren’t to blame for their abuse
It’s not you. It’s them. ❤️🩹
Something we learn in trauma recovery is that many of the "shoulds" & "have to's" we were conditioned to take on by abusive families & churches back then were control strategies-- explicitly designed to exhaust us & f*ck w/ our head.
Once you see it, there's no un-seeing it.