I disagree Andy. Always give them option.
Mama gave us multiple options then too...
Option 1 - Eat what I have and cooked
Option 2 - Sleep hungry.
Option 3 - Go and call the slaves and maids of ponri pongba of your forefathers and father to make another meal for you.
A Gen Z joined the team.
Week one.
During onboarding, the manager said,
“We sometimes stay late during peak periods.”
Gen Z nodded.
Then asked,
“Is that paid… or just expected?”
The room went quiet.
- No attitude.
- No rebellion.
- Just a question.
Later that day, HR mentioned “growth opportunities.”
Gen Z replied,
“Does growth include raises, or just more responsibility?”
Again, silence.
- No laziness.
- No entitlement.
- Just clarity.
That’s when the team realized something.
When people say
“Gen Z is lazy,”
what they really mean is:
Gen Z watched old generation
- skip meals,
- miss birthdays,
- work weekends,
- and burn out
only to be told
“budgets are tight”
and “be grateful you have a job.”
So Gen Z chose differently.
- They don’t romanticize overwork.
- They don’t confuse suffering with ambition.
- They don’t trade health for praise.
They still work hard.
They just refuse to work for nothing.
It’s not laziness.
It’s pattern recognition.
And honestly,
after everything old generation went through…
Can you really blame them?
“Can I bring my baby to the interview?”
The message came in at 11 PM:
“Hi, I have an interview with you tomorrow at 2 PM. My childcare fell through. Can I bring my 8-month-old? I understand if you need to reschedule.”
Old me would have rescheduled.
Unprofessional. Distraction. Red flag.
New me replied:
“Absolutely. See you tomorrow.”
She showed up with her baby on her hip.
She apologized three times before even sitting down.
Ten minutes in, the baby started crying.
She tried to soothe him while answering questions.
She apologized again.
I stopped the interview and said:
“Hey. You’re managing a fussy baby, answering complex questions, and staying calm under pressure. That’s literally the job. Handling chaos while staying professional. You’re already proving you can do it.”
Her eyes filled with tears.
We hired her.
She’s been with us for a year now.
The most reliable team member we have.
Why?
Because when you’re used to handling a screaming infant at 3 AM and still showing up to work the next day, workplace stress feels like nothing.
Working parents, especially mothers, are some of the most organized, efficient, and resilient people you’ll ever hire.
Yet we lose them because our hiring processes are built for people with zero caregiving responsibilities.
If your interview process can’t accommodate a parent facing a childcare issue, you’re not filtering for professionalism.
You’re filtering for privilege.
Oh, I have a few
1. If it bugs you when you’re dating, it’s not gonna go away once you marry
2. Look at people in the eye when you say hi/hello/good morning…
3. When you finally find something that took you a while to locate, put it back in the first place you tried. That's where it belongs.
4. When you say no, don’t explain. Explanations indicate you can be argued out of your stance.
5. Nothing is the end of the world except the ACTUAL end of the world.
6. The end of the road is the beginning of a road
7. Not everybody has to find their passion. Just find a job you don't hate.
8. Before saying something about someone else, pretend that person is listening and how you would feel if you knew they heard you.
9. Read books. Expand your mind, vocabulary, and perspective. Never stop learning.
10. Don’t walk with both of your hands in your pockets - if you trip, you’ll fall flat on your face.
11. Always write things down, on paper, or on your phone, especially when you find yourself "taking mental notes" because you. will. forget.
12. Remember that it’s a privilege to have dishes that need washing
13. Perfume and cologne are meant to be discovered, not to announce your presence.
14. If your dog doesn’t like someone, trust their judgment.
15. If you’re trying to make a decision, flip a coin. Then pick whichever option it is you’re rooting for while the coin is still in the air.
Lmao this Nepo baby conversation reminds me of when I had an intern I didn't know was a proper Nepo baby. It was very hilarious! She used to eat seafood pasta almost everyday for lunch and this was 16,500. Meanwhile I used to buy rice and chicken of 1,700 😂.
I declined a request to be a U6 football coach last month because I coached those alaigborans years ago, and I said never again. Those little humans were the biggest set of unserious humans. Sometimes, even me sef would ask myself, “what is my job gan gan? 🤌” see-
Part 2 of what happened to me today from Fadeyi to Ketu. E ma ba mi kalo (come with me).
I eventually got a danfo heading to Ketu for 800 Naira. Today tight. Everywhere choke. If you drive, you will cry. If you enter bus, another ekun egbere.
I sat in that middle seat and vroom
I entered everywhere in Lagos today. Time to go home, I sha got to Fadeyi bus stop, trying to get Ketu bus. As omo ogbon, I held my phone and wallet in my hand before dem show me “This is Lagos”. Any bus calling Ketu, I’ll rush in till I hear “wole pelu 1k o”, then I rush out.
I don't know if it is just the Americans around me, but I have tried using funny Nigerian phrases around these people and let me tell you, most of them didn't find it funny 😄
Because tell me why I told one “I want to be like you when I grow up” and he responded with -
You’re not a Hebrew woman!
You’re a Nigerian woman!
CS is a Miracle!
CS is not an abomination!
CS doesn’t make you less of a woman!
CS saves the lives of the mother and the baby!
Share this on your church page!
Culture shock crazy gan.
My first week in Italy, PhD final year babe in the lab I was introduced to - carry peck knack me both sides of my cheeks with my outstretched hand hanging in the air, anticipating handshake.
Shock hol me.
I carry phone WhatsApp my guy immediately:
"Tunde, one of these babes don dey quickly love up sha"
Mumu boy.
Wasn't until an hour later when other lab mates started coming in, I see all of them pecking each other in greetings. 🙂↕️
I enter bathroom, look mi in the mirror, shook my head and whispered at the mirror:
"This thing you're living is not life sha" 😂
One time I thought I could overtake this Mercedes Benz.
I assumed the lady driver wasn't as skilled as she should be with such a powerful car, I repeatedly overtook her. But little did I know, she was just letting me think I was in the lead. After our little game of cat and mouse, the next thing i heard was “vrooooooooooom!!!” She dusted me silly!
Before i could blink twice, she was 1 whooping kilometer ahead and i knew there and then she had been giving me a gentle head start the entire time 😂
Some cars are just unbeatable, and that Mercedes was one of them!
Update
So, I told her mum what happened this morning, and omo, she almost ran mad You guys, she was so pissed.
She stormed into the foolish guy’s house and warned him never to even look at her child again, let alone send them ever in his life. And she legit tore the 1k
So last weekend, I had cramps and went to a pharmacy store to get painkillers. While I was there, I saw a neighbor child barely 9 years old trying to buy a condom. I was shocked and asked who sent her. She said it was 'Uncle Monday,' another neighbor.
I couldn't believe it.....
I act like everything is fine but deep down, I want to understand how Layers Chicken lay eggs without sex. Just by feeding them, they lay eggs which can turn to chickens. It’s scattering my head.