A guy asked me out on Thursday for a date that Saturday.
Great.
Saturday came, and I didn’t hear from him all day until 3 p.m.
Then he sent one message and disappeared again until 5:30.
By that point, I was already dressed and hungry, so I went to dinner by myself.
I texted him and said, “I’m out if you want to join me.”
He actually showed up.
Dinner was fine, but I told him he needed to communicate better. I’m very easygoing, but if we have plans, I expect more than a last-minute check-in and several hours of silence.
He apologized and asked if he could make it up to me by taking me out again on Monday.
I agreed.
Monday came.
At 6:30 p.m. he texted, “You still tryna grab something to eat?”
No plan. No reservation. No time discussed beforehand. Just a casual message like we were deciding what to do in the next twenty minutes.
I did not respond.
He called.
I did not answer.
At that point, his access was revoked.
I gave him grace.
He got a second chance.
He used it to repeat the same behavior.
Next.