Performative people care about perception and their reputation. Authentic people care about TRUTH. And the truth don't change because you don't like it.
Game theory explains why forgiving someone who has not paid a cost for betraying you is a vicious mistake dressed up as a virtue. Forgiveness without consequence never 'resets' the relationship. It updates the other person's model of your response function.
You now taught them that betrayal costs nothing. So, the next defection is cheaper than the first one. You have effectively lowered the price of breaking your trust.
Genuine repair requires that the cost of defection be visible and proportional before the relationship resumes. Everything else is an invitation to defection.
Orcas eat great white sharks. They hunt seals, dolphins, and baby whales. They have never killed a single human in the open ocean. Not once, in all of recorded history.
An orca's brain weighs up to 15 pounds. Yours weighs about 3. They have roughly double the brain cells we do in the regions that handle complex thought. A neuroscientist at Emory named Lori Marino put an orca brain in an MRI and found these animals can tell different species apart underwater. They do it by sending out clicks that bounce off everything around them and come back as a kind of 3D sound map (this is called echolocation). From 500 feet away, an orca knows you're a human and not a seal. It skips you on purpose.
The answer is culture. Orcas around the world are divided into at least 10 separate populations, each with its own food rules, its own language, and its own way of hunting. All of it learned from their mothers. One population eats only fish. Another eats only marine mammals like seals and sea lions. These two populations can live in the exact same water and never swap a single meal. A baby orca learns what food is from its mother, and that list stays the same for life.
In the Pacific Northwest, one population called the Southern Residents eats almost nothing but Chinook salmon. Scientists have documented them killing harbor porpoises 78 times over six decades, carrying the dead porpoises in their mouths, and never once eating them. Even when the group was starving. A 2023 study in Marine Mammal Science looked at all 78 cases and concluded it was play. These orcas would rather go hungry than eat something their culture says isn't food.
Researchers studying whale behavior in 2001 found that orca cultural traditions "appear to have no parallel outside humans." Each family group has its own dialect, its own version of the language. Calves spend about two years just learning how to make all the sounds their family uses. Mothers will slow down a hunt on purpose so their young can watch.
In 2005, a 12-year-old kid was swimming in Helm Bay, Alaska when an orca came at him full speed. At the very last second, the orca seemed to realize it was charging a human. It bent its entire body in half and turned back to open water. In captivity, it goes differently. SeaWorld's Tilikum killed three people during his life in a concrete tank. Research from 2016, published in the journal Animals, traced it to psychological collapse from being locked away from the family bonds orcas need to stay stable.
I think calling this a "mystery" undersells the science. Orcas decide what to eat based on culture, not instinct. No orca mother has ever taught her calf to hunt humans, so no orca hunts humans. Only about 75 of those salmon-eating Southern Residents are still alive. Their pregnancy failure rate is 69% because we've destroyed their salmon runs. They won't break their food culture to survive. Whether we care enough to protect theirs is the part that actually matters.
unpopular opinion: i think the purest form of love is just wanting someone to notice life with you. "taste this. look at that. hear this song." again and again. until you can't imagine noticing life without them.
Morocco does not have oil, but it has craftsmen that have kept a 1,000 year old craft alive and thriving - diligently passed on from one generation to another. And that is worth more than black gold.
DO NOT mentally torture yourself with imaginary negative scenarios
DO NOT make yourself stressed about time
DO NOT let your mental state be neglected
STOP BEING A LOSER IN YOUR DAMN MIND
Assisted dying forces us to confront some of the hardest questions about life, autonomy, and what it means to care for one another. At first, it might seem like the ultimate act of compassion —a way to grant someone control and dignity in their most vulnerable moments. But when you step back, the picture gets murkier.
What happens when the option to end suffering becomes easier than addressing why people are suffering in the first place? In a world where healthcare systems fail the sick, where loneliness runs rampant, and where poverty strips people of their worth, offering an 'escape' can feel less like a choice and more like surrendering to a broken system.
This isn’t just about autonomy. It’s about ensuring that no one feels like their life is a burden because society didn’t do enough to support them. Legalizing assisted dying might start with good intentions, but it opens a door to a slippery slope —one where the most vulnerable could feel quietly pushed toward a decision they wouldn’t make if they had better options.
The real compassion lies in asking: how can we reduce suffering without normalizing death as the answer? It’s not an easy conversation, but challenging these ideas is how we move closer to a society that truly values life in all its forms.
“There is not a single man on Earth who believes ‘not all men’.
Because if you really believed it, you would let your homies date your sisters. You don't. Becuase you know.
You would let your daughters go to sleep overs in other men's houses even if those mens wives were not around. You don't. Because you know.
You would have at least three men on call that you could have babysit your daughters the way women have at least three women on call that they can leave their children of either sex with. You don't. Because you know.
You would not give your daughters such tight curfews while giving your boys relatively unlimited freedom. You do.
Because you know.
You wouldn't care what your female relatives wear outside.
You do. Because you know.
You would let your wife host your homies when you're out of town. You don't. Because you know.
Your wives wouldn't feel anxious about giving you daughters. And you would feel equal joy at the arrival of a daughter as you do at the arrival of a son. You don't. You feel terror. Because you know.”