AntiLoneliness

You are not your past. You are not your wounds.
Psychologist - Relationship therapist in the NL ~ Mental Health Ambassador.
You are not alone. ☂️

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It's a coping mechanism that protects us from overwhelming situations: too complicated, too sad, too rejectful, too aggressive, too painful.
People who have been characterised as "too sensitive" may have learned to "switch off" their feelings because there is not space for them.

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When you have been around adults that they neglect your own emotional needs and they focus only on theirs, you learn that THEIR needs are YOUR responsibility.

#overresponsibility #trauma #traumaresponse #innerchild #EmotionalDeprivation #emotionalneeds #EmotionalNeglect

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Being an Imperfectionist, doesn't mean being less good than you want.
It doesn't mean compromising your work's quality.
It doesn't mean giving up on your dreams.
Being an Imperfectionist means that you mindfully refrain from beating yourself up when things don't go as planned.

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Big part of the recovery after going through mental illness (anxiety, depression, burnout, etc) is to focus on changing the way we talk to ourselves and creating a more compassionate narrative around our self-image.
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Change is hard but it's definitely worth it! .

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Many times people in therapy ask me how to heal from a break up & move on as quickly as possible. However, in order to heal from a break up, we need time.
Compassion and acceptance.
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#acceptance #pain #AfterBreakup #relationships #compassion #selfcompassion #separation

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Being a pleaser doesn't equal with being kind.

#pleaser #copingmechanism #kindness #SelfLove #boundaries #relationships #balance #respect #selfcompassion

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Let that sink in.
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#burnout #MentalHealth #WorkLifeBalance #priorities #needs #SelfCare

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DO YOU THINK THAT THOSE WHO ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP DON'T FEEL LONELY?
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Loneliness IN relationship is a real thing.
Because loneliness is not being alone, but it is to feel disconnected, not understood, not felt, not loved and liked by another human being.

#relationships

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Loneliness is NOT being alone.
Loneliness is the deeply-rotted feeling that we don't belong.
That we are disconnected from others.
That those around us don't understand us, don't get us, don't value us as important.
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#loneliness #lonely #YouAreNotAlone #alone

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Loneliness is an umbrella that covers past traumas, unhealthy coping mechanisms, umnet needs, unprocessed emotions.

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What would you add in this iceberg?
What else hides under it?
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#loneliness #lonelinesshurts #youarenotalone #antiloneliness #connection #alone #isolation

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Keep repeating that to yourself:
"Right here, right now, I am enough"
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You deserve to rest, to be liked, to be acknowledged, to be loved.
Not "if", not "when".
You are worthy it, and you don't need to prove it.
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#innercritic #youareneough #goodenough #acceptance #approval

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Self-love is a healthy, more compassionate and more balanced relationship with yourself.
And when you learn to listen to your yourself with empathy, compassion, respect and understanding, you will unavoidably do the same with others and expect nothing less from them.

#selflove

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"If you’re on Mars and you have the most powerful telescope, that can look through walls, you can find all the isolated people on planet Earth. But you couldn’t find the lonely people.”
I love that!
#loneliness #antiloneliness #YouAreNotAlone

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How much fun do you have in your relationship?
Would you want more?

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This puzzle is YOU.
This puzzle is your most important project in life.
This puzzle is what will give you meaning, purpose and joy once again in your life.
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#mefirst #youareimportant #youmatter #therapy #selfcarefirst #joy #meaning #purpose #journey #attention

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A perfectionist focuses only on results.
Hence, he is more scared of failure.
Hence, he is "all or nothing", "either I did it perfectly or I didn't do it at all".
Hence, his schedule is less organised & procrastinates more.
Hence, he celebrates less.

#perfectionism

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And let's accept that it will be difficult to be accepting during these days but I will do my best.
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#acceptance #relationships #love #hate #balance #imperfection #perfectionism #youareenough #goodenough #unconditionallove #unconditionalacceptance

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It makes perfect sense if you can't get out of the bed many days.
You are not lazy.
You are not less competent.
You are not a failure.
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You are overwhelmed.
You are tired.
You are burned out.
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#burnout #getoutofbed #acceptance #mentalhealth #mentalhealthmatters