1. Upskill. Upskill at every given opportunity. Be insanely valuable, even when it means you need the forgo pay, do it. Learn maths, law, psychology, trading, software, know a lot(not a little) about everything. Learn how to speak fluently, learn how to write, learn how to sell. You'll be unstoppable with all three.
2. Women. They're not necessarily a distraction, you're the one that lacks a direction for your life. When you find purpose and pursue it, the right woman will come along. Stop wasting your sperm, you're killing yourself. You're not cool for having plenty body counts, it makes you an idiot instead.
3. Enjoy yourself fgs! Laugh, make friends, attend parties, you're still early to the wealth and finance game, breathe please. There's a lot of responsibilities on the third floor, I can't even remember when last I watched a Chelsea game. Ogbeni, enjoy yourself!
4. Network like a mad man. Play long-term games with long term people. Make friends with people who share your value system and grow with them.
5. Learn detachment. The quality of your detachment game precedes the quality of your life. Detach from women(read people), detach from money, detach from outcomes. Live life as it comes, if it happens, good. If it doesn't, still good.
6. Make friends with rock bottom. It's the most important phase of your life. If it comes early, thank God and build in the storm. Grow a thick skin in the middle of it. Life is hard. Learn stoicism. Prepare for the worst. Make peace with the possibility of failure but work your way out of it like a beast.
7. Find God.
We met at a wedding, I slid in his dm’s, gave him my number, started dating, but he didn’t have a job, so our dates consisted of Mcdonalds savers menu and long walks. My friends laughed at me.
My now husband just gifted me a Rolex for valentines day.