Charisma is a presence that excites us.
It comes from an inner quality-self-confidence, sexual energy, sense of purpose, contentment-that most people lack and want.
Charm is seduction without sex.
Charmers are consummate manipulators, masking their cleverness by creating a mood of pleasure and comfort.
Their method is simple: They deflect attention from themselves and focus it on their target.
Your friendly conversations with your targets will bring you valuable information about their characters,
Their tastes, their weaknesses, the childhood yearnings that govern their adult behavior.
When people's vanity is at risk, you can make them do whatever you want.
According to Stendhal, if there is a woman you are interested in, pay attention to her sister. That will stir a triangular desire.
To understand the peculiar power of the Coquette, you must first understand a critical property of love and desire:
The more obviously you pursue a person, the more likely you are to chase them away.
Remember: seduction is a game of attention, of slowly filling the other person's mind with your presence.
Distance and inattention will create the opposite effect, and can be used as a tactic when the need arises.
An isolated person is weak. By slowly isolating your victims, you make them more vulnerable to your influence.
Take them away from their normal milieu, friends, family, home. Give them the sense of being marginalized, in limbo.