i actually think "surface level" friendships are very healthy. not everyone in your life has to be your ride or die. some friends are for the gym. some are for going out. some are just for complaining about work or bureaucracy. when you stop expecting everyone to be your everything, the disappointment disappears. those deep convos and connections are for the 2-3 people closest to you
I don't know who needs to see this, but Isaiah 60:22 says, "When the time is right, I, the Lord, will make it happen." So relax. You're not behind, you're not forgotten, and you're not late. God's timing is still working in your favor.