I don't know who needs to hear this but oversharing + over-explaining is a learned trauma response when you aren't feeling "heard or seen" or understood. Say less. You don't need to justify your actions to anyone but yourself + to people who actually matter. Silence is golden.
One thing I’ve learned through forming boundaries, is that imma piss a lot of people off who aren’t used to me asserting myself and setting boundaries. Imma see the negative effects before the positive… but that’s cool. I’ll wait.