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📍NYC Beauty| Fashion| Lifestyle + Everything in Between CEO| Senior Event Planner & Designer @luxuriaaffairs 📧: [email protected]

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Today I present to you my baby: Luxuria Affairs Co. — a premier Event Planning and Design company, rooted in purpose and wrapped in luxury.

The journey has just begun…✨
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You know you're healing, when the same things that used to captivate or interest wounded versions of you don't appeal anymore.

You know you’re healing, when the growth in your decisions and discernment starts to speak louder than words.

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Procrastination is not laziness.
It’s a depression response.

[A S H L E Y E L L Y N @AshxEllyn]

people with no character development scare me.

like, how are you the same person you were 3 years ago with no growth or elevation of mindset?

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I absolutely love feeling safe enough to be the soft version of me.

I don't want to constantly be on defense.

I operate best when I'm moving in delicacy and love.

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I saw a post today that said, "When you finally learn your place in peoples lives, your feelings won't get hurt.”

…I swear that's the truth and one of the most important life lessons you'll ever learn whether it's friends, family or whoever.

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Sometimes I punish myself for having unproductive days but then I'm reminded that I'm only human and breaks are necessary.
Don't feel guilty for putting something on pause temporarily while you reconnect with yourself and find a balance.
Remember, your mental health comes first

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I've seen mothers give their sons all the love they’ve never had.

Then deposit all their pain, sorrows and insecurities into their daughters.

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But, they are naturally there for me, supportive encouraging vice versa.

I'm forever thankful.

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stop expecting so much from your #3's.
Your #1's are already on it.

Friendships should flow naturally so if it isn’t flowing…
step back and see why.

Maybe you are expecting too much.
I also don't place crazy expectations on my close friends either.

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I place my friends in three mental categories. (1)close friends, (2) good friends and (3)acquaintances.

It's important that I understand where they stand in my life because unmet expectations breed frustration.

Some of ya'll are expecting your number 3's to act like 1's.

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I really do feel that if you and your partner don’t have your own personal space in your relationship

it wont work.

you have to know when your person needs their moment and not to barge in

there’s still safe boundaries to be had.

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my love language is also space.

I need space.

space to process, space to rejuvenate myself and space to be myself.

I don't like being smothered or pressured.

It sometimes comes off distant and cold but space is really optimal for my personal healing.

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trauma almost freezes you at the age you experience it and until you deal with what happened to you properly, you'll never be able to teach that inner child there's another way of coping.

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some parents REFUSE to be a safe haven for their children, believing “the real world won’t coddle them.

of course it won’t.

that’s why they need to learn what love looks like so they can recognize when they’re being treated badly.

don’t normalize pain and disappointment.

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a child is a child.

and a child is never responsible for their pain.

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i’m so in love with my friends.
my girls are my heart.
so real. so solid.

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you can't fix someone who makes you feel broken. Something really worth it, won't make you feel worthless. Close the door to let them know you care enough about yourself to walk away.

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your idea of love begins to crumble when you put up with cheap love because you become a blinded victim to your own good intentions.

what use to be and what's supposed to be, is not reality.

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this is actually your life and you’re allowing people to make you unhappy?

in your life?

wow.