Divorce lawyer James Sexton on why modern marriage feels unfair to men.
He says the man is expected to provide financially, protect, and be part of the family, all enforceable by the state. But the woman’s side (love, affection, sex, being a good mother) can’t be forced.
If he fails, he can go to jail. If she fails, nothing.
He told the story of an air traffic controller who lost his high-paying job due to anxiety after his mother died. The court still imputed his old salary for child support, leading to jail time when he couldn’t pay.
What’s your opinion, do you think the legal risks in marriage are unfairly stacked against men?
If two people start a company and one contributes 90% of the capital while the other contributes just 10%, when the business starts struggling, who do you think is more likely to walk away first? Exactly, Now apply that same principle to your relationships
Mfers will call you a pervert for wanting the 19 year old beauty and not some mid 30-40’s behemoth and never give a valid reason why you should do otherwise lol.
If she hits 30, still unattached, it’s ‘standards reevaluation time’.
This is a largely UNCONSCIOUS PROCESS in unattached older women where they confront a few things:
1️⃣ All prior attempts to rope down the men they REALLY wanted have failed.
2️⃣ More and more of the men they really want have disappeared from the dating market, removed (i.e., snapped up) by other women.
3️⃣ They’re also getting less attention from men than they did when younger, hence are ‘less competitive’.
These realizations prompt a ‘standards reevaluation’ that always sounds largely the same from girl to girl:
• “I feel like I’m growing up.”
• “I’m becoming more mature.”
• “I’ve realized certain things I used to like (i.e., bad boy qualities) are maybe not so great.”
• “I’m realizing things I used to overlook (i.e., nice guy qualities) are actually pretty attractive.”
This doesn’t actually mean she finds nice guys ‘sexy’ now.
It means she tried competing in the Big Leagues for the sexiest, most desirable men, but other girls snapped those men up. Reality is forcing her to rethink her standards a little bit.
Ultimately, she’s responding to her own repeated attempts to rope down her most desired kinds of guys, but that failed:
❌ Guys who kept dating her / sleeping with her but put off anything serious.
❌ Guys who cheated on her (perhaps repeatedly) and wouldn’t go exclusive.
❌ Guys who promised marriage over the horizon but continually delayed & finally broke up.
Humans, just like animals, learn from repeated attempts and their levels of success and failure.
A woman who ropes down a desirable guy in her 20s and gets him to commit & marry her learns she is very desirable to desirable men.
Meanwhile, a woman who is unable to get commitment from guys like this in her 20s enters a period of reflection, then reevaluation, culminating in ‘matured’ (i.e., reduced) mating standards.
None of this is really conscious.
The kind of talk you hear from the woman in this video is about as conscious as it gets.
But it is ADAPTIVE, because it pushes unattached women to reduce their standards to a level that hopefully is still high enough to land a quality mate, but not so exclusive it shuts them off from the mates they are actually capable of securing commitment from.
Love Island fans believe a black man’s purpose is to keep black women from being voted off while she’s pursuing white boys who won’t vote to keep her on. Peak delusion.
Women will spend all year getting run through, spend 13k going to a foreign country to have flower water poured on their head, and then consider themselves a virgin again.
Every girl thinks she's the main character, and that's funny.
An ugly, poor, or average man knows he's average. He knows his reality.
But even an 80 kg ugly, unemployed hippo thinks she's a baddie and a queen, and that she deserves the best.