I told my husband I wanted a divorce.
I was sitting on the edge of our bed, looking at him.
He said nothing.
He just looked at me for a few minutes. Then he walked to the bedroom.
At first, I thought he needed time to process it.
I was wrong.
Three minutes later, my phone started vibrating.
I opened it.
It was our family WhatsApp group.
My husband's message was at the top.
"Since my wife has decided she wants to leave this marriage, I think everyone deserves to know what kind of woman she really is."
My stomach dropped.
Even men face domestic violence. It’s not just women. Abuse has no gender.
Once the beating starts, it rarely stops. It’s best to leave. There’s nothing to gain from staying in a toxic relationship.
He beat her.
Not a slap. A real beating. The kind that leaves marks on your body.
Then he cried.
He begged her to forgive him. Told her he was sorry. Told her it would never happen again.
Then he bought her a new phone.
She took it. She forgave him.
Not because she wanted to.
Because where was she supposed to go?
She had two children. No money. No job. Nowhere to run to.
So she stayed.
Then he beat her again.
This time, he cried while she cried.
He begged again.
The next day, he bought her gold earrings. They were beautiful.
So she forgave him again.
Then, last week, he slapped her in front of the children.
The agent promised my aunt and her husband that their relocation dreams would become a reality.
He showed them brochures and photos of Toronto. He showed them the life they could have there.
They sold everything.
The duplex. The cars. The furniture. My aunt's jewelry. Her husband's land.
They borrowed from friends. Family contributed to support them.
They paid him. Every kobo.
Then , one day, he called them, "Your papers are approved. Book your flight. Canada is waiting."
They cried. They thanked God.
They resigned from their jobs and withdrew their children from their expensive private schools.
Then they packed their bags.
@Aurora4mi Stories like this hit hard because the hope feels real until the documents don't. The only real safeguard is confirming the application status yourself on the official government site before anyone sells a single asset.
I had been married for five years, and my husband and I had never been able to have a child.
The doctors had discovered that my husband had a very low sperm count, and after years of trying, we eventually accepted that having a child would be difficult for us.
Around that same time, another couple we knew were struggling to conceive.
After several examinations, they discovered that the wife couldn't carry a pregnancy.
That's how I became their surrogate.
I discussed everything with my husband before agreeing.
He wasn't happy about it.
“I won't stop you,” he told me, “but I need you to understand that it hurts me knowing you're going to carry a child that isn't mine.”
I understood his feelings.
But I believed I was helping a couple who desperately wanted a child.
So I went ahead.
For the first few months, everything was fine.
Then the couple started fighting.
At first, I stayed out of it. Their marriage wasn't my business.
But their arguments became more frequent until, when I was six months pregnant, they separated.
I was shocked.
I called both of them and begged them to reconsider, at least for the sake of the baby.
Neither of them listened.
Eventually, the husband came to me and paid me the remaining money we had agreed on.
Then he left.
I was completely lost.
The baby was still growing inside me, but the family I was carrying the baby for no longer existed.
And suddenly, I had a problem I never imagined I'd face.
My husband didn't know.
Not that I was pregnant... he knew that.
He knew I was carrying another couple's child.
@DanisonPatience The fact that she’s hiding the separation from her husband makes it worse. He agreed because he believed they were helping a couple build a family. Now everything has changed, and he doesn’t even know.
I woke up in the trunk of our SUV. My wrists were bound with the silk scarves from our seventeenth anniversary. The vehicle was moving. Through the rear seats I heard my husband and the other woman—her voice already thick and bubbling with the mid-stage conversion.
She said, “The flooded quarry is deep enough. Once she turns underwater, the current will scatter whatever is left.”
He answered, “I already told her parents the quarantine reached our street. They won’t search for at least three weeks.”
The vehicle slowed. Tires on wet gravel. The trunk latch released. Cold air and the smell of stagnant water poured in.
@Drjnr12 I’m screaming the moment that trunk opens. Once I hear them discussing how to get rid of me, there’s no way I’m lying there quietly hoping for the best.
@6th_july They lost almost everything, but somehow they didn't lose each other. Starting again with a roasted corn stand and a small POS business may not look like much to outsiders, but after everything they went through, that's resilience to me.
Health Tips....
WASH OR WIPE?
Uncle, Aunty... After using the toilet, be honest.
Are you team WATER or team TISSUE?
Because some people will finish their business, grab tissue, wipe twice, and walk away like nothing happened.
Meanwhile, some of us are like:
"Wait first. We need WATER here."
Some do both.
So which one is actually better for your bumbum?
Let's discuss.
Washing with water:....👇👇
Generally gives a more thorough clean and is gentler on the skin, especially if you have sensitive skin, piles, or irritation. It prevents infection and doesn't leave residue like tissue does.
Wiping with tissue:.....👇👇
Convenient. But repeated or vigorous wiping can irritate the skin around your bumbum.
Best option?
If you have access to clean water, washing with water is generally the better choice. It removes everything.
But please, don't turn your bumbum into a car wash.
Wash gently. Clean properly. Dry the area afterward.
And if you're using tissue, don't scrub your bumbum like you're trying to remove paint from a wall.
Your bumbum has feelings too.
So, water or tissue?
Which team are you on?
They live in a one-room apartment now. No kitchen. Shared bathroom.
Family can't help anymore. Friends all gone. Nobody wants to get involved
Her husband started a POS business.
My aunt sells roasted corn at the market.
Their children are in a public school. They do not complain.
They do not ask questions.
But I know they remember.
And every time my aunt comforts her husband, she whispers, "We will rise again."
He says nothing.
He just holds her hand.
And she keeps whispering.
Because one of them has to believe.
Someone has to keep hope alive
It was a smooth trip. They landed at the airport.
The officer looked at their documents. Then at them. Then at the documents again.
He called another officer.
My uncle was still smiling. "It is fine," he said. "Everything is fine."
Then the officer said, "These papers are fake. There is no record of your application."
My uncle's smile froze.
"What?"
"There is no record. You cannot enter."
They sat on the floor. Two children. Fourteen bags. No home. No job. No country.
The agent's phone was off.
He was gone.
When they finally came back, they came back to nothing.
You don’t have to wait until you start making billions. Once in a while, buy something—a small gift for your dad and mom. Trust me, you will still get that same feeling. ✅💫
People need to understand that everyone is fighting their own battles, trying to keep life together.
Not every time you don’t hear from someone, it has to be, “You don forget me na?”
Sometimes, people are not ignoring you. They’re just trying to survive too.
End ❤️💡