Every single person reading this will one day die and be forgotten. So why are you spending your one life dragging yourself through a Monday to Friday you hate, performing for people who do not matter, living so carefully and predictably that nothing interesting ever happens? Find what actually lights you up. Build real relationships. Do the thing that scares you. Stop caring what people think. It is so much more fun that way. Trust me.
you can literally wake up one day and be like “actually, fuck everything ab my past and the self-sabotaging identity i had” and decide to live an entirely new life and be some1 who always fucking wins. it doesn’t take a feeling or breakthrough moment or epiphany. only a decision.
You’re not bad at anything. You’re avoiding the part where you look stupid before you get good. Every time you half-ass something so you can rationalize the failure later, you’re not “protecting your confidence.” You’re torching your future. The “I’m just not good at it” cope is the most pathetic shield people hide behind. Nobody started great. They pushed through the stage you keep running away from. You sabotage yourself to avoid embarrassment. That’s it. Fear. Anything is learnable. Almost everything is winnable. But not for the person who refuses to endure the humiliation phase. Stop lying to yourself about effort. Stop pretending you’re giving your best. You’re not. You know you’re not. And that lie is the ceiling on your entire life. Live like a coward and you’ll end up resenting yourself. Instead put 200% into everything and you’ll become someone you actually respect.
Do fun shit, make a shit tons of money, talk to strangers, lift heavy weights, scare yourself, be uncomfortable, travel everywhere, enjoy every moment, Just live.
Make some things in life nonnegotiable. You have to workout, you have to lift weights, you need to sleep 7-8 hours. You have to hit your steps, you have to send x emails a day, you have to complete all your tasks. Grade yourself everyday. Life is 2K MyPlayer. Don’t be the guy with a D- grade for the day.
Nothing is even remotely serious
Lose money? Laugh about it and make more
Relationships ends? Wish her well be glad you had the experience
Someone hates you? Piss them off more
Car gets stolen? Opportunity to buy a cooler one
Mfs who take everything seriously never win
some notes on starting something new:
- commit to it for at least 6 months
- make every 'iteration' better than the last
- accept that the first 100 'iterations' will suck
- get as much feedback as possible
- follow your curiosity, not the "rules"
- do the thing every day
- never let a mistake go to waste
- optimise for enjoyment, not performance
Insane to think about how many unconscious decisions you've made that have unknowingly altered the entire course of your life. Stop at yellow light instead of driving through it. Go back inside because you forgot your wallet. Early by a few seconds here. Late by a few seconds there
Infinite what ifs. Took the wrong turn but maybe it prevented you from getting assaulted. Or maybe it made you miss out on bumping into who could've been your future wife. Or maybe it led to this and then that and then this and that
Makes you realize how powerless you actually are over the specific outcomes that transpire. Discouraging on the surface but will completely free you if you embrace this fact. You're off the hook. You can drop the weight now. No need to worry anymore. No more feeling regret
You have no idea what the thing you're sulking over might have protected you from. You have no idea how getting the thing you wanted might have been the first phase of eventual self sabotage. You have no idea about anything and never did
All you can do is flow with reality. It's all you should do. Try your best to operate in the world with genuine intentions. When in doubt, choose courage over fear. Thank God for everything that transpires without judgement. Have fun and be well
Things you can’t control:
-the past
-what people think of you
-your friend bailing on your plans because he’s too banged up from the stripclub
Things you can control:
-hitting the gym
-eating healthy
-crushing it at work
-leaving massive tips at restaurants/bars
-talking to people like you already know them
-not being a schemer
-not being transactional
-telling the father of the bride “Thank you so much Mr. [his last name] I’m having the time of my life” when you’re at weddings
-taking random moments throughout your week to realize you live in a free country where gyms and Christopher Nolan movies exist and the fact you’re alive is a 1 in 500 trillion miracle - you’re so lucky it’s absurd and you have nothing to lose :)
Bruh, no matter what you’re dealing with, once your health takes a hit, that becomes your only real problem. Never underestimate the value of good health.
there's so many ppl that genuinely don't realize they have free will it's kinda absurd, like why are waiting on a crosswalk signal when there are no cars coming in your path? just cross the street its ok i promise
Your greatest priority should be to take life less seriously. Every bit of exhaustion you've felt has come from your own thoughts. You think you need this, on this time frame, and it has to happen in this exact way, or else you're not allowed to laugh
You attach your mood to some rigid blueprint of arbitrary success that you not only didn't choose yourself, but that never even existed in the first place. How utterly miserable. How horrendous of a deal your mind has made with your spirit
Sometimes you blow it, sometimes you pull it off. Sometimes things happen, sometimes they don't. Who cares. From a place of abundance, literally who cares. Take the shackles off your soul
You don't know when the game ends. Nobody cares how you play it. There was never a right way to play it. So just have as much fun as you can. Free yourself today
Although i'm still quite young, i can't help but notice time slipping right by. The ephemerality of existence is simultaneously beautiful and frightening. Before you know it, you'll be 40 years older looking back at memories of now as if they were yesterday. As if all time in between were but a blink of an eye. It's important to keep this in mind when looking forward too. In a flash, we will be old with an entire life of memories behind us, within us -- all that potential we looked forward to, no more, only actualized experiences in its place.
And the full recognition of this leads me only to a renewed passion and appreciation for living life more intentionally, spending my time as if it were the most valuable thing on earth, for what a crime it is to take life for granted