Female Autist

musings of a female autist

[Female Autist @AutistFemale]

TW: ableism, abuse, children
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#ableism #autisticcultureis #ActuallyAutistic #autistic

[Beth Morrison @MorrisonBeth]

Non verbal 7 year old with autism extremely anxious in school (classed as vulnerable) teacher us telling him he must stop stimming (flapping and jumping up and down) so he is made to sit on his hands on hus chair. If he moves he is sprayed in the face with cold water!!!!

[Female Autist @AutistFemale]

@Girl_by_the_Aga @MorrisonBeth The police are unlikely to be helpful

[Tee @witandstars]

Not detailing all of my weakest moments is something everyone does. But only disabled people get shit for it.

"NT Tom didn't you get divorced last week? Don't you think not posting about it is setting unrealistic expectations?" No. Noone thinks that.

[Tee @witandstars]

The "autism superpower magical gift" trope was created by NTs, because that is the easiest way to make sense of us, as good or bad. It's further dehumanizing to not see us as multi faceted human beings.

[Tee @witandstars]

I just want to emphasize that the "rainbow unicorn fun land" autism stereotype wasn't created by autistic people. We've been fighting to get our needs acknowledged for decades. #actuallyautistic

[René Brooks | Black Girl, Lost Keys @blkgirllostkeys]

Cleaning a home is a SHARED RESPONSIBILITY. Read more about the societal norms that effect ADHD women here: https://t.co/vcJGfgTxTm

[René Brooks | Black Girl, Lost Keys @blkgirllostkeys]

STOP teaching your son that his wife is going to come along and resolve the fact that you won’t make him learn to take care of himself. He should be able to cook and clean and take care of his home with or without help. Women are not training centers for half raised assholes.

[René Brooks | Black Girl, Lost Keys @blkgirllostkeys]

I was married to a man with ADHD who had women to clean up his messes his entire life and believed I would follow suit. He would TRASH our home then complain about how it looked. I cleaned once per week in those days. Why was it always trashed?

[René Brooks | Black Girl, Lost Keys @blkgirllostkeys]

Women are not your fucking support staff. I’m TIRED of watching women break down and cry from the shame and inferiority they feel. Are you fucking kidding me? This is abuse. It is ABUSE to demand someone do something they aren’t good at because you THINK they should due to gender

[René Brooks | Black Girl, Lost Keys @blkgirllostkeys]

I’m so tired of going into support groups for ADHD women and seeing some variation of “my husband/fiancée/ boyfriend is so angry because I don’t keep our home clean enough for his liking”

Women. Are. Not. Servants.

If you don’t like the way she cleans, hire someone or do it.

[Female Autist @AutistFemale]

@AutisticTitan5 @nadalpurgatory @arianneswork It’s part of gender conditioning, etc etc

[Female Autist @AutistFemale]

@AutisticTitan5 @nadalpurgatory @arianneswork Well yeah. The boys do it too but the girls are a certain way about it

[Female Autist @AutistFemale]

@AutisticTitan5 @nadalpurgatory @arianneswork Yeah. They definitely don’t we just get labeled other things and girls are particularly mean to girls who can’t conform to female gender standards.

[Female Autist @AutistFemale]

@caitskirby There is also a sexual assault scene which makes it seem like it’s condoned.

[Dr. Cait S. Kirby (she/her) @caitskirby]

5.1) This is all to say I genuinely just want a story about a stutterer who considers their stutter to be an intrinsic part of them, but not their sole character trait, not their inciting incident, not their traumatic backstory, not their motivating factor.

[Dr. Cait S. Kirby (she/her) @caitskirby]

4.6) If you don't unpack and debunk those thoughts, you normalize them for fluent watchers. IMO the show didn't do a good job separating out his stutter from his abuse which they could have done by having the character not stutter. It was not good representation; I don't want it.

[Dr. Cait S. Kirby (she/her) @caitskirby]

4.5) I am sure there are many stories about a person not wanting their child to go through the torment they went through (especially being expected to "overcome") or buying into the belief that their kid wouldn't be worthy of a title. But you MUST debunk that in the story.

[Dr. Cait S. Kirby (she/her) @caitskirby]

c.w. suicide
4.3) You may be thinking, "of course not! Why would anyone worry about their kid stuttering?!" You may not know that suicidal ideation & depression are higher in stutterers than in fluent speakers. https://t.co/gpTup9j29S

[Dr. Cait S. Kirby (she/her) @caitskirby]

4.2) Is he so immature that he will follow through on a promise made to a dead man & lose Daphne? OR is he worried about his kid stuttering, whether about their worth, or the treatment of stutterers? That's a eugenics-y line of thinking that should have been thoroughly debunked.

[Dr. Cait S. Kirby (she/her) @caitskirby]

I'm getting commentary that's like, "it was about the abuse, not the overcoming."

1.1) If that were true, then the dad could have been abusive for literally no reason: abusers gonna abuse. The boy did not need to stutter. The boy stuttered because it's an overcoming trope.