"Be deep enough to make me feel seen, clear enough to make things happen, but don't expect me to build at your level. I want to benefit from your depth —not have to match it."
That's not partnership.
That's positioning you as an emotional/mental contractor for their life goals.
It is crazy how a single moment of misunderstanding can become so toxic that it makes you forget the thousands of lovely moments you have spent together with someone. Anger has a terrible way of rewriting history.
once you cut people out of your life, you need to become very comfortable with them talking bad and making things up about you. bc they will fill your silence and your absence with stories that make them feel better about losing access to you. people rarely take accountability when it’s easier to paint you as the villain.